What I have found in my interviews for my book The Art Of Female Ejaculation, is that the opinions expressed publicly are different from opinions held in private. The truth is that penis size, parameters, shape, and angle do matter to both men and women but not in the way most think. Men may be surprised as to how women really see them and the good news is that women typically have a more flattering view of them than they think.
Women are typically not looking for a massive penis, they are looking for an average sized penis. Don't believe me? Well, one of the biggest requests we have noticed is the many years we have sold sex toys is that the large majority of our female customers, when purchasing a dildo, often say that they do not want something too large, they want something that is an average size of a man's penis.
One of the biggest complaints we receive about a dildo? It was too large for them. They saw the size when they bought it thinking they wanted something bigger and realized that was not at all what they wanted. You see, the penis size emphasis is often brought to a realistic halt when a woman gets what she thought she wanted in regard to penis size. This is not to say that some women do not enjoy a larger penis or dildo, but the majority do not.
The truth is that most women want average when it comes to size. What they do not want is an average lover in skill and that is easy to improve upon. However, if you want to enhance the size of your penis there are some healthy ways to do that which we will cover through resources later, but for now, let's look at how women's orgasms work and why average size works better.
The Vaginal / Cervical Orgasm
Because vaginal / cervical orgasms involve the cervix, which is located further up inside the vagina, a long object (or penis) thrusting into the vagina will better reach the cervix and be more successful in aiding a woman to reach this type of orgasm. Hence a longer penis is going to feel more arousing inside a woman that desires this. However, the good news for average sized men is that most women are too sensitive when it comes to their cervix and do not enjoy it being stimulated. In fact most women will tell you it is downright painful and means that a longer penis by most women is not desired. In a study conducted through the University of Texas Pan American women were surveyed about their perceptions of what was more sexual satisfying length or width and it was determined that due to the overwhelming majority of responses indicated, width was more pleasurable and that extending the length of one's penis is not where emphasis should be.
Let's not forget that women are part of the picture and can aide in solutions as well. Doing Kegel exercises to keep her vagina muscles toned can be one of her contributions as well as using other toys and products.
Open communication is the key, and women should discuss what will most pleasure them in detail with their lovers as that will provide their lover with a guide, rather than leaving them in the dark as to what will make them sexually pleased. All women are different, and while there are certain techniques that will pleasure a woman more... to what extent one prefers one technique over another will vary from woman to woman.