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Sexual Arousal at Home
you have ever been dancing at a club you know that there is
a high level of sexual excitement knowing that others are watching
you dance. This heightened sense of sexual awareness often gives
couples an arousing visual stimulation that adds to their attraction
for one another. Yet, couples often forget to bring this into
and more couples are finding that it is easy and fun to do an
erotic strip tease for their partner in the privacy of their
own home. Take a moment to learn how to visually excite your
lover and bring in a sense of your own sexual prowess.
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist & Sexuality
CEO & Founder of
Holistic Wisdom, Inc. & NAASAS
Copyright © Holistic Wisdom, Inc.
can be a liberating experience and very erotic when it taps into
your sexuality. Imagine your partner coming home from a long day
and finding the smile on their face when they see that you are going
to entertain them with a sensual strip tease. This will increase
the level of creativity and sexual fun to a very high level quickly.
you are entertaining the idea of doing this professionally, check
out our article on How
to Become a Stripper.
to Do a Strip Tease at Home
are some tips on how to prepare to make your strip tease fun and
enjoyable for both of you-
what outfit you wish to wear and go through a practice run on
how you will remove each part of the costume. Sometimes adding
a few extra layers such as a robe or boa helps to elongate the
teasing aspect for the dance. Have fun with your costume. You
can use things like body glitter, special make up, temporary body
jewelry and tatoos for an added surprise. You can also add some
special eyelashes for a dramatic effect. (See where to purchase
what music you are going to play and have it ready to go when
your lover is ready for your show. Decide how many songs you are
going to do and what mood you want to create. You can start out
slowly or fast and end with whatever mood you desire. You can
also have other songs that will keep the mood going as you begin
having more sexual playtime with one another.
if you want to have lit candles, dim the lights or even use a
black light to make things visually seductive.
time to visualize your dance and then practice it in a mirror.
The more you are comfortable with the idea of doing this the easier
it will be during the time of your live performance.
dancing, it is quite erotic for your lover to watch you touch
yourself by caressing yourself throughout the dance.
can also whip your hair around if it is long and even if it isn't
you can still glide it along their skin.
sensual eye contact. Nothing exudes sexual domination like a moment
of making strong eye contact.
- You may want
to video tape it if you want a little keepsake for your lover. Just
remember that videos and pictures can last a lifetime on if they are
ever posted on the Internet.
- Try to stretch
before you dance as sometimes quick movements can cause a muscle spasm.
- If you are using
a stripper pole, make sure it is secure and can handle your weight
and velocity as you spin around it. We provide a link to a site below
that provides stripper poles that are durable and secure.
- You can whisper
in their ear before you begin to have a seat and not to speak as you
have a special surprise for them.
- Don't forget
to touch them. You can run your hands through their hair, caress them
and even give them a lap dance.
- Move in levels
of height from standing up to bending over and kneeling. Mixing up
your positions makes the dance more visually stunning.
- Use a chair,
slide onto it backwards. Slide your hands up and down it to simulate
sexual caressing and grind up against it.
- Consider using
pasties, body jewelry or temporary body tatoos on your breasts so
that as you remove your top and bra there is something to surprise
your lover. You can do the same for your pubic area and even shave
your pubic hair in a special shape. See our pubic
hair shaving kit.
- Use the wall
or a stripper's pole to slide up and down. Don't be afraid to lift
you legs during your dance or at someone move onto the bed and do
a seductive crawl.
- If you want to
first blindfold them to lead them to the strip tease location, make
sure you have one ready to go.
- You can also
use restraints to tie them up rendering
them helpless and completely submissive to your sexually dominant
role. Integrating a whip, feather tickler and other props can also
be a great way to add to the visual and tactile stimulation of the
- In addition to
traditional lingerie you can use an adult costume that has a theme
such as a naughty nurse, school girl or secretary. The options are
really only limited to your imagination. (See where to purchase these
- Use your hands,
a feather teaser, whip or your clothing to touch your lover and move
things around them for added fun.
- Remember not
to rush a strip tease. It is meant to delay gratification and provide
a fun period of play before sexual activity and smile from time to
time to let your lover know you too are having fun.
While we do
not carry strip tease products on our site, we do recommend a great
site where you can get them and that is our sister site FruitsofEden.com.
Please note that Fruits
of Eden is run by a separate company and is not operated by Holistic
Wisdom. Therefore, if you wish to purchase from Holistic
Wisdom please do so before leaving or bookmark it so you can easily
are some examples of things they carry that we do not that you may
find of interest-