Love Language Quiz

What's A Love Language?

The quiz is based on the Five Love Languages framework developed by Dr. Gary Chapman, which suggests that people have different ways of expressing and receiving love. According to Chapman, the five love languages include physical touch, acts of service, quality time, gift-giving, and words of affirmation. 

Before you use this quiz, please note that 'love languages' don't really exist; think of them more as a form of slang to describe a preference that you or your partner have in each moment.

Just because someone prefers acts of service, it doesn't mean they don't also enjoy words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, or physical touch in their relationship. In reality, all of these aspects should be addressed at some point to maintain a healthy and balanced partnership.

While love languages can be a fun and interesting tool to articulate feelings and desires, keep in mind that they lack scientific backing and can be harmful when misused in relationships. Thus, it should be used cautiously and not as a definitive guide to improving and understanding relationships.

To learn more about this, please see our guide:
Are Love Languages Real? The Myths Of Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages

What's Your Love Language?

Instructions

As you embark on the exciting journey of taking this quiz, it is essential to carefully ponder over each question and thoughtfully select the option that most accurately describes your desires. There are no correct or incorrect responses; rather, this is self-exploration to better understand how you thrive in a relationship.

In a romantic relationship, which of the following would make you feel most loved?

a. When your partner surprises you with thoughtful gifts.

b. When your partner compliments you and tells you how much they appreciate you.

c. When your partner hugs, kisses, or cuddles with you.

d. When your partner does things for you, like cooking dinner or running errands.

e. When your partner spends quality time with you, doing activities you both enjoy.

When you express love to others, which of the following do you most often do?

a. Give them gifts or tokens of appreciation.

b. Tell them how much you care about them and how much they mean to you.

c. Touch them affectionately, like hugging or holding hands.

d. Do things for them, like making them breakfast or helping them with a project.

e. Spend time with them, doing things you both enjoy.

Which of the following would make you feel most hurt in a relationship?

a. When your partner forgets your birthday or other special occasions.

b. When your partner doesn't express appreciation for what you do.

c. When your partner is distant or doesn't seem interested in physical affection.

d. When your partner doesn't help you when you need it.

e. When your partner cancels plans or doesn't prioritize spending time with you.

If you were trying to cheer up a friend who was feeling down, which of the following would you most likely do?

a. Buy them a small gift to let them know you're thinking of them.

b. Offer words of encouragement and tell them how much they mean to you.

c. Give them a hug or hold their hand to show your support.

d. Do something to help them out, like running errands or making them food.

e. Invite them to do something fun together, like going for a walk or seeing a movie.

In a relationship, how important is it to you that your partner expresses love in your preferred love language?

a. Very important, I need to feel loved in the way that's most meaningful to me.

b. Somewhat important, I appreciate any expression of love, but my preferred language is most meaningful.

c. Moderately important, I enjoy physical affection, but it's not the only way to feel loved.

d. Not very important, I'm happy as long as my partner shows love in some way.

e. Not important at all, I don't have a strong preference for how love is expressed.

Which of the following statements best describes your feelings about receiving gifts?

a. I love receiving thoughtful gifts, and they make me feel loved and appreciated.

b. I enjoy receiving gifts, but words of affirmation or physical touch mean more to me.

c. Receiving gifts isn't that important to me, I prefer other expressions of love.

d. I don't really care about receiving gifts, I'm more focused on giving to others.

e. I feel uncomfortable receiving gifts and would rather not receive them.

Which of the following would be your ideal way to spend a romantic evening with your partner?

a. Going out to a fancy restaurant or having a special dinner at home.

b. Spending quality time together, talking and sharing feelings.

c. Cuddling up and watching a movie or just being close physically.

d. Doing something practical together, like working on a home improvement project.

e. Engaging in a fun activity together, like playing a game or going for a walk.

When it comes to expressing love, which of the following do you think is the most important?

a. Gift giving

b. Verbal affirmation

c. Physical touch

d. Acts of service

e. Quality time

In a romantic relationship, how do you prefer to show love to your partner?

a. By giving thoughtful gifts

b. By verbally expressing affection

c. Through physical touch

d. By doing things for them

e. By spending quality time with them

Which of the following do you think is the best way to deal with a difficult situation in a relationship?

a. Give each other space

b. Talk things out and communicate openly

c. Use physical touch to show support

d. Do something nice for your partner

e. Spend quality time together doing something you both enjoy

Which of the following best describes your ideal way of receiving love?

a. Through thoughtful gifts

b. Through verbal affirmation

c. Through physical touch

d. Through acts of service

e. Through quality time spent together

Which of the following is most important in a romantic relationship?

a. Mutual understanding and support

b. Trust and honesty

c. Physical intimacy

d. Shared interests and hobbies

e. Emotional connection and communication

 

Answer Key

If you answered mostly A's, your love language is likely Receiving Gifts

If you answered mostly B's, your love language is likely Words of Affirmation

If you answered mostly C's, your love language is likely Physical Touch

If you answered mostly D's, your love language is likely Acts of Service

If you answered mostly E's, your love language is likely Quality Time

You may find that you have more than one love language. The more answers you have in one category, the more important that love language is to you.

Love Language Results

Using love languages can be a great way to connect with your partner and make them feel loved in a way that really matters to them. To increase intimacy with your partner, learn to speak their love language. Here are some tips on how to do that:

Words of Affirmation

This is when people enjoy hearing nice things from their partner and need a high level of communication. Examples of this can be in the form of compliments about something they did well or just reminding them how much they mean to their partner.

Writing little notes or sending messages to show how much you care is a great way to provide this desired love language. Actively listening to your partner and giving them your full attention is essential. Also, verbalizing loving compliments and praise in front of other people can intensify the words of affirmation effect, allowing your partner to feel even more appreciated.

Quality Time

People who prefer this love language like to spend time with their partner doing things together. This can be discussing your day, cooking together, watching TV, or going on a date. To make this love language work, being present and focused on your partner is essential.

Enjoy doing other activities together are ways couples who enjoy this love language can enjoy one another. Plan special dates and create memories like romantic dinners, trips, and events you will both enjoy. When you make time for one another, focus on the quality of time to make each moment count.

Acts of Service

This love language is about doing things for your partner that make their life easier. It can be something as simple as making them breakfast or doing their laundry. By doing things for them without being asked, you're showing them that you care and are thinking about them.

Having the dishes put away, the car topped off with gas, laundry put away, fixing things around the house, cooking meals, or doing yard work can make life easier for your partner. There are so many ways to engage in this love language. Doing various tasks that help take care of household tasks is great, and doing them without being asked is ideal.

Physical Touch

This love language is expressed through physical contact. It can be as simple as holding hands, spooning, hugging, or cuddling. It's important to talk to your partner about what type of physical touch they enjoy so that you can express your love in a way that they will appreciate.

Physical touch as a love language can take many forms; just ensure it is the type of physical touch your partner enjoys. For example, some couples like more gentle touching, while others want firmer or rough play. Having open and honest communication about how both of you enjoy physical touch will be important as to how well it is received.

It is often helpful to make physical touch more available during emotionally changing times by rubbing them on the back, hugging them, and providing comfort.

Gift Giving

People who enjoy this love language like to receive thoughtful gifts. It doesn't have to be big or expensive, but it should show you know them well. You can surprise them with their favorite treat, get them a personalized gift, or even bring them something small when you return from being away.

Surprising them with small meaningful gifts they love, such as special treats from the bakery, their favorite flowers, or trinkets they may need, such as a new pair of socks, are small ways to show you care. Personalized gifts can be well received and ideal for special occasions such as birthdays or anniversaries.

Remember, the key to showing love is understanding what your partner likes and doing things that make them happy. By expressing your love in a way they appreciate, you'll strengthen your relationship and build a strong foundation for the future.

Things To Keep In Mind About Love Languages

Keep in mind that love languages are like a buffet where you do not have to pick just one dish. You can have a little bit of everything!

Love languages are not set in stone. They can evolve, just like you and your partner will. Don't be surprised if they shift from physical touch to acts of service or if you desire all of them at the same time at some point in your relationship.

Love languages are not a magic pill that will cure relationship problems. They are tools that can help you better understand each other because nothing can replace honest and empathetic communication. So make sure to share your emotional, mental, and physical desires.

Love languages are not just for couples. You can use them in all kinds of relationships, including friendships and with family members. The key is to observe the people in your life, noting what moves them and showing them love and appreciation in a way that makes them happy.

In Closing

Using love languages can help you connect with your partner and make them feel seen, feel more connected, and avoid misunderstandings. However, remember that these are simply ways of expressing your needs in the moment and that love languages are not a comprehensive way to have a healthy relationship.