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A Good Sex Toy
Quality Vs. Junk
concerns about purchasing a sex toy are-
bought the wrong thing in the past and now I don't know what
"I want it but is it worth the cost?"
"What will my partner think of me?"
these thoughts sound familiar, you are not alone. There's nothing
like expecting a night of fireworks from a sexy new toy and
then finding it to be a disappointment. Sure there are sex toys
that are more hype than help, but as often as not, the consumer
hasn't done enough of his or her own homework when selecting
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist & Sexuality
CEO & Founder of
Holistic Wisdom, Inc. & NAASAS
Copyright © Holistic Wisdom, Inc.
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wouldn't buy a car without knowing anything about it, and since
you can't test-drive a sex toy, you really want to think about some
of this stuff before buying. Here are some basic pointers:
If you are just starting out with your first or second sex toy,
then you will want to check out our featured
sex toys. We post them there as they are what many of our
customers enjoy and have gotten great reviews.
- Look for sex
toys not based on what marketing hype or reviews you see, buy them
based on what you think would work best for the pleasure you want
to achieve. For example, if you enjoy intense rubbing for clitoral
stimulation then a high powered clitoral vibrator would work well.
If you are getting a dildo, then make sure to figure out the diameter
that you would be most comfortable with. See our guides for more information-
sex toy makers who want us to sell their sex toys, assure us that
their toy is fantastic. Yet, it is important that they actually
live up to their reputation and deliver what people are expecting
them to be, so we certainly don't rush to have every sex toy offered
on our site. Rather we focus on what is good and take our time
in adding new products to make sure we are providing high quality.
That is what you should be looking for where ever you purchase
a sex toy.
Find A Company That Will Treat You Well
us give you an example of what we mean. A man who was an engineer
had ordered a vibrator for his wife from us and it turned out it
was defective, so we sent him a replacement a few days later. When
that turned out to be defective, he actually emailed us with an
outline of why he thought it was malfunctioning. After we spoke,
he indicated that he wanted an alternative toy so we sent him two
of his alternative preferences for free. We then called the toy
manufacturer of the defective vibrator and let them know why their
toy was malfunctioning as well as letting them know that we would
not carry their toy unless they corrected the problem.
is important to find a company that will be accountable for returns,
defects, shipping problems, and other customer service issues because
many companies count on you to be too embarrassed to complain.
Cheap Vs. Quality Manufacturing
problem is that many toys are made of cheap parts, using cheap International
labor. That is why it is somewhat scary to order a sex toy, not
just because they may not live up to the hype, but they may simply
not work. One
of the ways that we have dealt with avoiding cheap and defective
toys is by doing business with reputable companies that provide
quality products. It is in our interest, not just yours, that we
do this as we have a professional reputation to protect. Because
we take responsibility for anything that is defective we also don't
want to have situations where customers are calling to get replacements
for defective products because it just does not make good business
sense to put our customers or our company in that situation. Below
are some more tips on finding a quality product and retailer-
a savvy consumer once you've narrowed down what you're looking
for because the adult novelty industry has traditionally exploited
consumer fears and embarrassment around sex toys. Some adult stores
sell low quality merchandise at inflated prices. I've heard from
more than one person who bought a fifty dollar toy only to have
it break down in three days from other companies.
example, Vibratex, the original makers
of the Rabbit Pearl (seen
on HBO show Sex In The City) suddenly had many companies making
cheap knockoffs of their product. One European company had to
recall its wannabes when they found that the metal rod that rotates
the shaft could pierce through the vibrators exterior! Making
sure that you get safe sex toys is important, not just for your
safety but also piece of mind.
the sales hype on a toy sounds too good to be true, it probably
is. Once in awhile something really exciting comes along that's
worthy of the praise. There's usually a groundswell of interest,
so try to find reviews if you can and shop at places you trust.
web sites that post customer feedback and provide information,
ask friends about their favorites, and look for bestsellers. Also,
make sure the company provides contact information beyond a phone
number or email address. You are also going to want to see a physical
address to make sure they are legitimate.
sex toys are used on intimate parts you will want to make sure
any sex toy you use is a high quality product and as chemical
free as possible. Some of the high quality, nontoxic
sex toy brands that you can trust are shown to the right just
name a few, all of which we carry on our site.
the Top Sex Toy Lines
Potential Financial Disappointment
you're hesitant to experiment with toys because of the money or
the unknown factor, here's a little perspective: think of a disappointing
sex toy experience as somewhat akin to a disappointing meal out.
You might pay $60 at a fancy restaurant for a meal that didn't thrill
you, but it wouldn't stop you from trying another new restaurant.
you do stumble upon a great restaurant, you've just improved the
quality of your life. Accept the fact that not all sex toy experiences
will be mind blowing ones, but that the more you explore, the more
likely you are to end up with the orgasmic equivalent of culinary
delight. Also, make
sure you are doing business with a reputable company with a knowledgeable
sales staff. You should have no problem asking tough questions and
getting accurate answers.
to be careful of-
of sales people who are more interested in making a sale
than providing something that works with your needs and
out for the sales representative that tries to tell you
that the only way to get a discount is to purchase something
right now. If they really respect your business, they
will offer it to you when you are ready to make your purchase.
offers that sound too good to be true. Often times there
is a catch to that incredible offer they are making you.
Remember, all businesses must make a profit to survive
and when they start luring you in with offers that seem
exaggerated (beyond typical offers such as low
price guarantees, free
shipping, free sample products,
and everything seems too peachy keen... it probably is.
of wholesale web sites for the general public. There are
some companies that sell wholesale to non-business owners.
This is forbidden by the manufacturers that supply the
products they sell and they are at risk of not being able
to carry such products once the manufacturer discovers
this violation. These extremely low priced products may
be stolen or refurbished (used sex toys). We suggest you
use extreme caution when purchasing products that are
well below the manufacturers suggested retail price (MSRP).
For more on this see our helpful article: Avoiding
Sex Toy Scams.
of sites that claim the best customer reviews but don't
allow YOU to submit a
review. A good web site will provide you with a way
to submit your review and listen to your concerns.
toy shops should offer you a no hassle replacement of
a defective product within 30 days.
- Beware of
sex toys shops that allow you to return
a used sex toy when it is not defective. Believe it or not
there are sex toy companies that will resell that product. Despite
health risks and how absolutely unethical it is, it is a very
real possibility and happens all the time.
Getting What You Pay For
Be aware that the sex toys that are made
from nontoxic materials often cost more because the materials
they use to be constructed from are more expensive to the
manufacturer. For example, higher grade silicones that are
100% medical grade are more expensive than silicone mixed
with additives. Just because something is cheaper does not
ensure you are getting more for your money and here is why-
toys are made with lower quality parts and mechanical
difficulties often occur. Your sex toy could last for
a very short time period as compared to the higher
end sex toys that are made with stronger, more durable
parts. Even if you have a tight budget, there are still
many great sex toys and romantic
gifts from reputable companies from which to choose.
toys that are put in porous parts of your body should
be made of nontoxic materials to prevent possible health
in separator bags or storage
bags that have antibacterial qualities and allow you to keep
the products you have purchased separate from one another prevent
the toys from having chemical reactions with one another. Even
nontoxic products can cause harm to one another if they touch.
Some people are often shocked when they put two sex toys in storage
together only to find they have melted together when they go to
pull them out.
Toys & Partners
you're buying a toy for partner play, it helps to keep this adage
in mind: "you can't please all the people all the time". What works
for you might not work for your partner, so if you're expecting
the toy to deliver amazing simultaneous mutual orgasms, there's
a good chance you'll be disappointed. Keep your expectations realistic
and communicate with your partner on what they prefer rather than
guessing. If you are getting a first-time sex toy then err on the
side of mild rather than wild. Getting something like a body
massager that can also be used on the genitals, nipples and
have attachments added is always a good place to start as no one
hates a good body massage.
make sure your partner is a willing participant, otherwise you run
the risk of making them feel inadequate or insecure if you whip
out a new toy in the heat of passion. Also, make sure to keep a
sense of humor, which comes in handy when you're strapping on a
purple dildo or a cock ring that looks like a bunny. Whether or
not the toys can live up to your expectations, sharing sex toys
with partners is a great way to communicate about your sexual needs
and to explore new erotic adventures.