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Hand Jobs         How To Give A Great Handjob Giving a great hand job begins with the mind as all seduction begins there. Making the context for the hand job feel erotic is about your attitude first and foremost.

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO HolisticWisdom.com Founder

Just like women, men want to feel that you want them and doing things like whispering naughty things in their ear while you slowly ease your hand south is much better than jerking his penis out and mechanically going up and down with your hand.

A romantic atmosphere is always nice- scented candles, sensual music and a great lubricant always come in 'handy'. Of course those things are not necessary to a good hand job, they are simply icing on the cake. However, if you are like many and enjoy the icing, I would suggest keeping a sample size lube in your wallet (like a staff favorite: ID Pleasure- a waterbased, stimulating lubricant.)

If you have a purse or man bag, you can keep some hand wipes for easy clean up afterward. After all, things when done well sexually can get a bit messy.

Hand Job Pressure

The best way to start is gently and then gradually slide your hand up and down with a bit firmer grip, making sure to notice if he is enjoying the added pressure or if it is getting to be too much.

Communicate- Ask him in a soft whisper if it feels good, does he want it harder, or softer. Let him tell you what he wants. Many men will want it softer and then want increased intensity to as the hand job progresses. However, many factors will influence this, including personal preference, so it is always best to ask in a seductive way if this is a first time and/or it has never been discussed.

Hand Job Lubricant

Hand jobs are greatly enhanced with the use of a lubricant, so if you have one, use it. If you do not have access to a lubricant, using a substitute like hand cream, cooking oil or petroleum jelly will do.

If you use an alternative, remember that should you continue to sexual intercourse that a condom will not be safe to use unless the lubricant is water-based.

Also, make sure to avoid any types of oils or products that have skin irritants in them. Even using something with essential oils (like cinnamon, orange, etc.) can cause irritation and inflammation to the skin.

If you do not have access to a lubricant or do not want one, hand jobs must be done with more care as the friction to the tender skin of the penis can become irritating and painful.

Hand Job Winning Tip

Where Is The Most Sensitive Part of A Man's Penis?

A great way to stimulate this part of the penis is by using the thumb to rub it while lubed or unlubed; enclosing it with your hand in a circle and lightly pulling on the head as you massage your thumb into the frenulum underneath.

To intensify this, take your other hand and hold his penis at the base, forcing the blood to the head (which will increase the intensity of the sensations).

Various Hand Job Techniques

Milking
This is the most common approach. Use one or both hands to milk his penis as you slide up and down it. Speed and pressure may vary.

Making A Fire
Rub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of lubricant or light friction for this technique.

Head Of The Class
Hold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well lubricated palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the head in a back and forth or rotating motion.

Ball & Shaft
With the penis resting on the man's stomach, take one hand and massage the testicles softy. Then glide the heel of the palm of the other hand up and down the underside of the penis.

Twist & Shout
Pull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand use a corkscrew motion as you slide up the penis. The twist can be done with the thumb and first finger or with your entire grip.

Double Stroke
Use one hand to lightly wrap around the base of the penis and softly slide up to the head, before that hand leaves the head have the other hand grasp the base of the penis and do the same thing so that both your hands are taking turns grasping and sliding up his penis. This motion can also be reversed to go down his penis rather than upward. Pressure and speed can vary.

Triple Delight
Use one hand to play with his anus (just play with the outside unless he is into anal penetration), while the other slides up his balls and penis ending with added attention to the head. This works really well with fellatio doing the same thing, except using one hand for the anus, one hand for his balls and your mouth to his penis.

Hand Job Sex Toys

Vibrators & Lubricants

Using a vibrator with a hand job can make it absolutely delicious. Here are some recommended toys and lubes-

Finger Toys

Finger Gifts

Rings & Sleeves

Toy Cleaners

Lubricants

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