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Sex
Jokes of the Week-
One
night, Pinnochio's girlfriend says to him, "This stinks.
Every time we make love I get splinters." So Pinnochio
goes to Gepetto to ask his advice. Gepetto says, "Sandpaper,
my boy, that's all you need." A few days later Gepetto
runs into Pinnochio and says, "So how are you doing
with the girls now?" Pinnochio says, "Who needs girls?"
Aussie
Centerfold
The
Mysterious Mitusa Technique An
Oral Sex Technique Claiming To Be
Effective For Achieving The Female Orgasm Follow
Up
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
Just
under a month ago I had written an article asking for feedback
on the Mitusa technique. The topic was brought to my attention
by one of our newsletter readers who wanted to know more
about it.
Since
that article ran, we have received a lot of feedback and
wanted to share some of our findings on the topic.
The
mysterious oral sex technique called "Mitusa"
claims
to be effective at bringing women to orgasm through oral
sex.
The
site that plugs this technique and claims to be the only
site that provides this information (MatchConsultant.net,
run by Jill McGoldrick) actually gives you little information
about it other than it being secret.
To qualify
to receive the Mitusa technique for free, you must be willing
to answer market research questions and then they eMail
the technique to you in links to hidden web pages to access
the information. However, I have been told that if you
do not want to complete the research essay questions
that are required to get the technique, that it is available
for $30 as reported by customers that obtained it that way.
Side
Note For Providing Your eMail to ANY Company- Remember
that you want to make sure that the eMail address you provide
can easily be protected as many companies will sell your
eMail address or provide a large amount of spam to solicit
you for other products they are selling. If you desire,
you can read more on our
corporate policies regarding eMail.
Has
Mitusa Been "Yanked" From Online Distribution?
The
site does state, "3 months ago a buyer purchased
Mitusa and the dating guides that we marketed. He immediately
yanked them from online distribution, with the thought process
that exclusive distribution would better highlight the uniqueness
of the product. He also wants to disassociate Mitusa from
online marketing."
This
seems odd considering that we received customers claiming
to have purchased the technique from Jill for $30 and getting
it for free after answering essay questions. Isn't that
online distribution? Also, Jill is marketing her site online
through the Google Adwords program which is
paid advertising, so this statement on her site seems either
out dated or questionable.
What
To Expect When You Get The Technique?
According
to customers, once you receive access, you receive a large
amount of information on general and very basic oral sex
techniques. One customer reported that it seemed to him
not to be one technique as much as it was a "collection
of techniques," with a focus on controlling certain
aspects. There is an order of the techniques suggested,
but it is complex and seems to take some time to develop
according to feedback we have received.
What
we have repeatedly heard from customers of the Mitusa technique
is that it does not seem to be anything more than general
oral sex techniques that are suggested in a certain order
so as not to over or under stimulate the clitoris. Reviews
we have received so far indicate that the information was
adequate for oral sex, but that it was not unique or easy
to understand from the way the information was provided.
One reviewer indicated that it was like trying to learn
oral sex from a set of stereo instructions.
Another
recipient of the material said that there was nothing presented
to him that he did not already know about from his own oral
sex experiences. He said that the Mitusa technique was more
of a common sense technique.
Using
Mitusa As A Dating Strategy-
In doing
research on the Mitusa technique we received feedback from
newsletter subscribers about what they knew of the technique.
Amazingly, it turns out there is a group of people who actually
market the technique in order to get dates with others using
it as a sort of "bait." There are also postings
from women that claim they will only date men who know it.
Whether
these are postings from those who love the technique or
from those who are affiliated with the company and are trying
to create a need through postings to market it is unknown.
A common place to find postings about it is through LavaLife.com
(a singles dating site) where one woman said in her headline
something such as 'You'd better know Mitusa'.
We even
received an angry eMail from one man (whom I will refer
to as "X") whom claimed that he had lost dates
from this very article when it originally ran in our newsletter
on 12-19-04. Apparently, he was using the Mitusa technique
to land women for sexual interludes. I understood him to
feel that some of the things that were discussed about it
were messing up his strategy to entice women through knowledge
of Mitusa.
The
hype about knowing the Mitusa technique apparently even
went to the extreme of the site itself indicating that if
you wanted to confirm that someone has really learned the
technique that you can send a $1 payment to Jill by snail
mail so that she can provide you with a simple confirmation.
The site says you can do this "so you can know for
sure the man you are hopping between the sheets with is
legit."
Honestly,
I found that making this technique sound so secret and awesome
was really quite an interesting marketing approach for those
who get sucked in by sheer curiosity alone. I kept thinking
that this was a bit ridiculous to say the least. I mean,
I can't even imagine charging people a dollar to confirm
if someone had purchased sexual health information from
us for two reasons. First, because I do not believe that
a sexual technique can be secret because I am quite aware
of what people have been doing for centuries and honey,
anything that can be done, has been. Second, I believe in
maintaining customer confidentiality and confirming that
someone has purchased anything from us is an infringement
of their privacy.
A
Negative Response To Our Article-
We did
receive one eMail from a man who as we mentioned was claiming
to lose dates because of our article, whom I refer to as
"X" to protect his anonymity. This man first eMailed
me to say that I needed to change my article because he
felt it was a negative review of "Mitusa." The
problem with this accusation was that I had not even reviewed
the technique at that point, only their marketing techniques
for it.
I was
also surprised at such a hostile reaction when he accused
me of making libelous claims. He led me to believe through
his eMails that because he was a lawyer that he was looking
into contacting the company to possibly pursue legal action
against me unless I changed what I wrote. He gave me 24
hours to do it. Then with a demanding tone, he had the audacity
to ask me for free sex advice.
His
main focus was that I had first stated in my article that
the Mitusa site had made a 100% guarantee on their technique,
which he said was not true. However, they did imply it by
posting a graphic on their site that said "100% Product
Guarantee" on pages referring to the Mitusa technique.
They also have in text that they "guarantee extremely
intense orgasms."
Jill,
the owner of the site, in a later eMail admitted that posting
this 100% guarantee was a mistake and said "I am
making necessary changes on my website and appreciate your
pointing out the oversight." As for "X' saying
that I was not reporting the truth, I can say that while
it may have been a mistake in posting that on Jill's part,
it was not a mistake on mine to report it as being on the
site because it was there and still is as of today.
The
only reason I mentioned it in the first place (as outlined
in my first article) is because no sexual technique can
be guaranteed 100% of the time because people, health aspects,
psychological aspects and environment can influence a sexual
experience and make that kind of guarantee impossible.
In short,
I was challenged with negative comments, and legal threats
for writing the truth about the Mitusa site and because
I am not committing any legal infractions and well within
my right to free speech, I have not only maintained my stance,
but am writing further about it in this follow up article.
As I
said to Jill in an eMail, "I have nothing against
your company. I simply was responding to the feedback that
we were receiving from our newsletter readers as that is
one of the services that we provide."
I do
this because I believe that the public should be allowed
to openly communicate about sexual techniques in a factual
manner. I also think that companies that promote items in
a manipulative, sexist, or fear-based manner are open to
being questioned about their approach. I want for consumers
of sexual health products to be educated
about what they are receiving and to be motivated to invest
time into it out of a sense of empowerment not from a sense
of insecurity and fear. It is why I have such a hard time
with penis enlargement ads that prey on men's insecurities.
Web
Postings Trying To Embarrass Us?
We have
been told that "X" is now posting negative things
(as encouraged by the Mitusa site owner Jill) about this
article to try and make us look like we are incompetent
in reporting on this topic. Jill wrote to me in an eMail
and said "...will handle things from my end by allowing
"X" to make his web postings."
The
other hot topic for this man and Jill were the comments
I had made about "No Strings Sex," when I wrote
that it does not exist. I said "There is no such
thing in my opinion... not when you have STDs, pregnancy
and safety risks at play and that is just the physical aspects."
I suggested that they use a more appropriate term like
"noncommittal sex" to imply that there is no commitment
involved.
"X"
wrote to me and seemed pretty worked up in an eMail about
this and said, "For starters you talk about a woman
being comprised of "more than her genitals". I hate to break
it to you, but you are out of touch with the segment of
the dating realm that is genuinely seeking no strings sex."
My reply
to that, is that I will forever stand by my opinion that
women are more than their genitals and I do not see how
that is so upsetting to hear.
This
topic apparently was something that Jill and "X"
disagree with me on as she too eMailed me and said, "["X"]
has advised me that the full content of your emails (essentially
stating that the world would be a better place without men
seeking no strings sex) will be posted on every website
chat room frequented by ANY of my clients within 3 days."
I am
not sure if Jill or "X" felt like this was threat
to me, but I can assure them that I was actually pleased
that they would post my eMails. I want people to enjoy the
freedoms of their sexuality in open or monogamous relationships,
long term or even for a brief encounters, but I also hope
that people are aware of their responsibilities when they
choose to be sexual in any capacity.
I have
always embraced different levels of sexual intimacy between
people, even though I have chosen a monogamous marriage
as the right choice for me. I believe that singles who have
one night stands, swingers, open marriages and other types
of sexual behavior different than what I personally practice
can be as wonderful as any other way of expressing sexuality.
Again, what I do teach regarding any kind of sexual behavior
is to show respect for a partner and yourself by practicing
safe sex, using communication, and seeing a person as a
whole being, not just "using them," as being important.
The
Mitusa Is Given To Men Only?
It was
true that the woman who runs this site (Jill McGoldrick)
claimed that women were not allowed to obtain it. I remember
thinking, "So much for sexual empowerment for women
or lesbians for that matter."
Already
it seemed this site was geared toward single men for their
products, and catering to even the most sexually astute
man by possibly suggesting to him that he is currently inadequate
when it comes to providing the "ultimate sexual pleasure."
Jill
indicated on it that she would not share the technique with
women because she said that most men prefer that they get
exclusivity. Which in my opinion meant that most men be
given a way to manipulate by dangling a sexual technique
in front of a woman to get a her to sleep with them. Sounded
ridiculous to me.
She
also wrote that by refusing to send to women, they make
sure that men need women. I was sorry to break it to her,
but men need women for more reasons than to practice a sexual
technique.
Jill
also claimed that women were more prone to sending it out
to all their friends and this again seemed like yet another
backward way to approach women by implying to them that
a "sexual technique" that would make them feel
good (according to the site) is none of your business. It
seemed that this was another marketing technique geared
toward desperate men.
However,
after seeing my article she told me that she was now allowing
women to have access to it. I am happy to know that it was
an article that we provided that made a positive impact.
It appears after looking at the site that other things are
getting changed on it as well, so I am happy to report that
our comments on issues presented in this article are making
an impact in the way that Jill is marketing her products.
I suggested
that she think about making some other changes as outlined
in my article and I am hoping she will consider them. From
what she has indicated to me via eMail it sounds like she
will be changing things on her site based on my observations
because I think she is seeing that you don't have to market
to people's insecurities to interest them in something.
I am happy to know that at the very least it was our article
that created awareness that women's sexual empowerment is
important and should not be neglected and that you can have
non-commited sex but teach people to be respectful of one
another.
Is
The Mitusa Technique Real & Does It Work?
According
to the web site it is a sexual technique, but how original,
secret or effective it is still is debatable from the feedback
we have received. From what I have heard it sounds just
like one of the many techniques we teach in our book and
video The Art
of Female Ejaculation which was copyright protected
under the Library of Congress in 2002 (apparently well before
the makers of this technique came out with claims of it).
The technique is not presented as a female ejaculation technique,
but it is a way to provide less over and under stimulation
on the clitoris.
However,
it does seem odd that this company has named a technique
that sounds similar to one of the techniques that I teach
in my book and video The
Art of Female Ejaculation and claims it to be secret
and found no where else.
I
would like to point out that you would have a hard time
trying to get a patent on a sexual technique. Why? Because
what can be done sexually has most likely been done before
long before someone tries to claim they invented it. It
would be like trying to claim that you invented rubbing
your nose because of a tickle sensation and then blowing
it. That combination of actions is not considered a secret
technique, nor should anything in sexual behavior. I am
here to educate people about their sexuality and I certainly
find it ridiculous for anyone to claim that they invented
a technique that no one else knows about or sells information
about.
If
you are going to sell or provide sexual information, you
should focus more on why it is effective, not try and make
it seem valuable because no one else has ever taught it
or thought of it before because you end up looking foolish
in my opinion.
Can
The Mitusa Technique Or Any Technique Be 100% Effective?
While
the Mitusa site does claim to "guarantee extremely
intense orgasms." There is no sexual technique that
is going to be 100% effective for ALL women at all times.
Yes, we are all capable of the same things as we have the
same equipment, but how well that equipment is working and
the psyche of the person owning that equipment is just as
important. There are many components to sexuality which
require a holistic approach not just a physical one.
That
is why our book
and video on female ejaculation has done so well,
not just because it addresses techniques, but because we
look at addressing psychological and mental aspects of a
woman's sexuality as well. Learning some "technique"
is great, but certainly not the end all answer.
It is
why Viagra only works on 2/3rds of men who use it... there
is no 100% fool proof sexual technique, drug or toy. We
are more than just a body, and if you do not take a holistic
approach to sex, then you are not seeing the "whole"
picture.
What's
The Verdict From Feedback?
From
what I have heard from our readers, the Mitusa technique
is more marketing hype than anything else to get people
to give them $30 or personal sexual information in exchange
for basic oral sex information.
One
of our readers summed up his thoughts on the topic by saying
this... "I read the Mitusa information and so did
my girlfriend. While you get oral sex information, we did
not find it all that the site made it out to be by a long
shot and have found this whole phenomenon of people marketing
themselves as knowing this general oral sex information
as an asset to date or have sex with them as downright lame."
Most
people seemed indifferent or complacent about the Mitusa
technique and no one wrote in saying that it was a really
good technique, other that Mr. "X" who seemed
mad because we were somehow screwing with his dating scheme.
More
than anything, I think this topic opened up the opportunity
to explore how companies market sex techniques and I found
it to be something that needed to be talked about with so
much out there on the Net these days. Hope it helps you
draw your own conclusions about what you think is important
and clears up some of the mystery on Mitusa.
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Rape: What To Know Inside
A Rape & What A Victim Can Do To Prevent It
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
Holistic Wisdom Founder
Having
been a rape crisis counselor, I am all too familiar with the
risks for women and men when it comes to being attacked, raped
or worse. Statistics show that 1 in 4 women will at some time
in their lives be sexually assaulted. Statistics also state
that over 70% of reported rapes are committed by someone the
victim knows. However, this article will be focusing on the
other 30% of those who are sexually assaulted or raped by
a stranger.
If you
are male and think that you can't be raped, you are
wrong. Male rape is more common than you probably think and
is most often done by an attacker(s) that is highly aggressive.
It has NOTHING to do with sexual preference. About three percent
of American men ( 2.78 million men) have experienced an attempted
or completed rape in their lifetime.
There
are three types of assailants when it comes to rape as it
breaks down into motivation.
1) Power
55%
2) Anger 40%
3) Sadistic 5%
Power
Rape Attacks-
Rape is not about sexual needs, it is about meeting other
emotional needs through sexual behavior. After having studied
offenders, I can tell you that research shows these offenders
find little if any sexual satisfaction in the act of rape.
Their reactions often range from disappointment to disgust.
When rapists discuss pleasure they speak of being aggressive
and having power over their victim. Sexuality for a rapist
is a means of compensating for underlying feelings of inadequacy
and serves on a very dysfunctional level as a means to obtain
a level of strength, control, authority, identity and capability.
Anger
Rape Attacks-
This type
of assault is characterized by physical brutality. Far more
actual force is used in the offense than would be necessary
if the intent were simply to overpower the victim and achieve
penetration or sexual assault. These attackers consider rape
the ultimate offense they can commit against another person.
Most often these assaults will leave a victim not just sexually
violated but physically battered and bruised due to the level
of physical violence associated with anger based attacks.
Sadistic
Rape Attacks-
For these
offenders, there is a sexual transformation of anger and power
so that the aggression itself is eroticized. The offender
finds the intentional abuse of his victim intensely gratifying
and takes pleasure in the victim's torment, anguish, distress,
helplessness, and suffering. The assault usually involves
bondage and torture and frequently has a bizarre or ritualistic
quality. Sexual areas of the victim's body become a specific
focus of injury or abuse. In extreme cases, there may be sexual
mutilation of the victim's body or sexual intercourse with
their corpse. Most victims of this type of rape are murdered.
Is
There Such A Thing As Drug & Alcohol Induced Rape Attacks?
Intoxication
reduces inhibitions, impairs reasoning and judgment, distorts
contact with reality, and increases insensitivity to the impact
of one 's behavior on others. But drugs and alcohol are not
what causes an attacker to commit a rape. It may be a catalyst
and play a contributing role, but it is not a causative one.
Where
Do Rapes Usually Take Place?
About
four out of ten sexual assaults take place at the victim’s
own home.
Two
in ten take place in the home of a friend, neighbor or relative.
One
in ten take place outside, away from home.
And
about one in 12 take place in a parking garage or area.
More
than half of all rape/sexual assault incidents were reported
by victims to have occurred within one mile of their home
or at their home.
When
Do Rapes Usually Take Place?
43%
of rapes occur between 6 p.m. and midnight.
33% take place between 6 a.m. and 6 p.m.
24%
occur between midnight and 6 a.m.
What
To Do To Try And Prevent An Attack
Be
cautious about your environment. Choose times during the
day to be out and if you must be out at night when most
attacks occur try not to be alone.
Let
people know where you are and when they can expect you.
Carry
a cell phone so that you can contact assistance quickly.
Lock
doors on your car and home even if you are only going away
for a little while. Make
sure all locks are secure on extension doors.
Have
the locks on all exterior doors re-keyed when you move into
a new house or apartment, or when roommates or others with
access to your home are no longer welcome.
Install
a peephole viewer in the front door and get into the habit
of checking it BEFORE you open the door... EVERY TIME.
Good lighting is a deterrent to crime. Install adequate
exterior lighting at all entrances.
Don't
open your door to strangers. Never let anyone into your
house to use the phone, even for an emergency. Offer to
make the call for them.
Request
identification from all repairmen and maintenance people.
Don't
advertise that you are home alone. Keep
a light on in your home to make someone think that there
are awake and alert people in the home at all times. Keep
a light on in more than one room to make it appear that
you may not be alone. Remember, most rapists and burglars
are opportunists.
Always
be alert. If you're harassed by someone, always head toward
lights or people.
If you think you are being followed, DO NOT GO HOME, head
to a police station or crowded place.
Don't
hitchhike.
It
is particularly important to be with people whom you know
and can trust if you are under the influence of drugs or
alcohol.
If you use Laundromats or other high risk areas, plan to
go with a neighbor or friend.
Take
special precautions when traveling, as tourists are generally
more relaxed about their safety.
What
To Do If You Are Being Attacked
Scream!
It may startle your attacker and give you an opportunity
to run away.
Kick
off your shoes if you have on hard to run in shoes to be
able to run faster.
Don't
take time to look back; just get away.
If
your life is in danger, passive resistance may be your best
defense. An example of this is if you are in a place where
no one will be able to help or hear you and you have a knife
to your throat. It will be a hard call to make, but it may
be the way to go. Use your intuition because it may be better
to fight and ultimately you must decide the best way to
get out of this.
Tell
your attacker that you have a disease or are menstruating.
Vomiting
or urinating may also convince the attacker to leave you
alone.
Use
physical force. Do not let them take you to a second location
away from a place where you are more likely to get help.
Often once that occurs you will not have another chance
to escape and may lose your life. Hitting, scratching or
biting may give you a chance to escape so be forceful as
this may very well be a fight for your life. Again, there
may be times when your life is directly threatened with
a knife to your throat and no one can help you so use your
instincts.
Understand
that some actions on your part might lead to more harm.
It is always difficult to know if one should cooperate or
fight. Again, it is a matter of judgment. If you can, fight,
yell and try and run. If you feel that being passive is
the only way to survive then follow that gut feeling. There
is no 100% fool proof way to know what an attacker has in
mind, but if you decide to fight, do so hard and unrelenting
until you are free. Remember, this can come down to your
life depending on it.
What
Should I Do If I've Been Raped?
If
you're raped, you should first get to a safe place, away from
your attacker. Then you should go to a hospital emergency room
to be checked. You can call the police from the hospital. Don't
bathe or change your clothes before you go to the hospital.
Just get there as fast as you can.
At
the hospital a doctor will need to do a blood test. Women will
be checked for pregnancy and all rape victims are tested for
diseases that can be passed through sex. Cultures of the cervix
may be sent to a lab to check for disease. The results of these
tests will come back in several days or a few weeks. You will
also be given the option of a "Rape Kit," which are
several ways doctors can get "evidence" such as semen,
pubic hair, samples and clothing fibers to help track down and
convict the rapist.
Also,
take advantage of services that include hospital social workers,
local rape crisis services, your local public health department
and the state attorney general's office to help you emotionally
and legally cope.
Sexual
assault is an atrocious crime which is NEVER your fault. You
cannot make some one rape you as this is their free will of
which you are a victim.
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aspects of the book The DA Vinci Code. The aspect of the
video that I wanted to emphasize to our readers is the
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Ask
Lisa
With
hundreds of eMails coming in every day and while I answer
many, it is not possible for me to reply to all of them.
However, I wanted to provide a section where we take
some of our readers questions and post them on our web
site so that we can provide answers that everyone can
benefit from having the information available on our
web site.
To submit your question
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us for consideration
of publishing it in our next newsletter.
Many
of my girlfriends are recommending a book called He's
Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo
(the authors are two writers of the popular show, 'Sex
in the City'), but then I have been hearing about guys
whose girlfriends are actually breaking up with them over
it and I wondered what you thought about it.
Curious,
Beth
Hi
Beth,
Well,
to be honest, I have not read it so I cannot personally
comment, but I can tell you what people have told me about
it, which is that it has a lot of surface and contrived
dating advice that suggests that women should expect men
to take the initiative in the dating scene and that if
they don't go out of their way for you then he must not
truly care about you. Apparently Behrendt says things
like... women should NEVER call a man or ask any man out
first. Smells of stupidity to me.
I
mean good grief, if I had waited for my shy husband to
have taken the initiative we'd probably still be chatting
about the weather.
I
have to say that part of why I have not and will not read
a book like this is because while I liked the show "Sex
In The City" and found it quite funny at times, I
would not have used it for dating advice!
Many
books like this (such as The Rules by Ellen
Fein & Sherrie Schneider) tend to be about highly
surface goals which is to "land a man," not
a complex, genuine, honest relationship.
I
believe in the rule of thumb that "like attracts
like," meaning that if you are manipulative or playing
games then you will attract men like that. If you are
confident and authentic then I believe you will be more
likely to attract the same and will be easily able to
spot it if it is right in front of you. Just my thoughts
on the idea of such a book, and would love to add comments
from you or anyone else that may read it.
Best,
Lisa
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(I have seen it experienced it and "tasted it" first hand
years ago with a wonderful older woman mentor ... as such
I am aware of the potential and have tried to impart that
info to my wife. Yes, we do talk about our prior experiences
with others as an erotic form of pillow talk foreplay.)
She
(we) managed to get through the first 1/2 of the tape
... while she applied her "G" spot vibrator with your
informative directions and I applied strategic petting
and encouragement.
What
she watched and absorbed took her through the stages of
"interest", "arousal", "plateau" and finally "orgasmic
response". My wife had a writhing, very loud BIG "O" long
before the tape was finished.
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Gene
Simmons of KISS is Sued For Slander
A former girlfriend (Georgeann Walsh Ward) of Gene Simmons
(KISS band member) is suing him for slander, saying that
he made her sound like a ``sex-addicted nymphomaniac''
during a ``rockumentary'' on VH-1 television. Georgeann
who is now 53 and residing in Chester, N.Y. claims that
because a photo of her with Gene Simmons was shown during
remarks about his sexual adventures, she was in effect
portrayed as ``wild'' and ``unchaste.''
Georgeann
is now married with a 21-year-old son. She met Gene Simmons
at a concert in October 1972 when she was 21 and for three
years they were in what she believed was "an exclusive,
monogamous, romantic relationship.'' Gene Simmons has
not yet commented on the charges.
The Condom Conspiracy AIDS, Coming To A Person Near You
New
guidelines are sure to increase risks of HIV infection
as new regulations from President Bush’s Centers for Disease
Control and Prevention (CDC) in Atlanta, quietly issued
dangerous programs that denounce condom use, while teaching
abstinence as the only way to prevent the spread of AIDS.
The
CDC is dismissing effective, disease-preventing safe-sex
education that has long been used for HIV-prevention education
in the United States. The abstinence-only programs, researchers
say, actually increase the risk of contracting AIDS and
other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
The
new CDC guidelines will be mandatory for any organization
that does HIV-prevention work and also receives federal
funds. The
CDC is the principal federal funder of prevention education
about HIV and AIDS, and it is head a Bush appointee.
These
new regs require the censoring of any “content” including
“pamphlets, brochures, fliers, curricula,” “audiovisual
materials” and “pictorials (for example, posters and similar
educational materials using photographs, slides, drawings
or paintings),” as well as “advertising” and Web-based
info. They require all such “content” to eliminate anything
even vaguely “sexually suggestive” or “obscene” like teaching
how to use a condom correctly by putting it a cucumber.
They
also are demanding that all materials include information
on the “lack of effectiveness of condom use” in preventing
the spread of HIV and other STDs. Bottom line is that
the Bush administration wants AIDS fighters to tell people:
Condoms don’t work despite the fact that they do.
What
is worse is that the CDC will now take the decisions on
which AIDS-fighting educational materials actually work
away from those on the frontlines of the combat against
the epidemic, and hand them over to political appointees.
This is done by requiring that Policy Review Panels, which
each group engaged in HIV prevention must have, can no
longer be appointed by that group but must instead be
named by state and local health departments.
Those
panels must then take a vote on all content before it
is issued. This means that, under the new regs, political
appointees will have a veto and be able to ban anything
in those educational materials they deem “obscene” or
lacking in anti-condom propaganda.
How
They Plan On Further Hiding The Truth With Junk Science
The
CDC’s politically inspired censorship includes “questionnaires
and survey materials” and thus would forbid asking people
if they engage in specific sexual acts without protection
against HIV. Apparently asking that would be “obscene.”
Questions
about gay kids have already disappeared from the CDC’s
national Youth Risk Survey after Christian-right pressure.
What's next?
A
third of all federal HIV-education money of about $270
million in Bush’s latest budget now goes to abstinence-only
programs, almost universally to Christian groups as part
of Bush’s “faith-based initiatives” (no Jewish or Muslim
groups receive any funds). Much
of this money goes to anti-abortion groups masquerading
as “women’s health” or “crisis-pregnancy” centers. We
are in dark times, and it is important that we stand strong
with truth, science and integrity to light up the shadows
that such propaganda casts onto sexuality.
Illinois
House Bans Homosexual Discrimination
Gov.
Rod Blagojevich called it "a landmark day in Illinois"
and said he looked forward to signing the legislation
of a ban against discrimination of gays and lesbians.
The bill will add "sexual orientation" to the state law
that protects people from bias based on race, religion
and similar traits. It applies to discrimination in jobs,
housing, public accommodations or credit. It is not about
getting special rights, but about the rights that all
human beings rightfully deserve and we applaud this with
sadness in our hearts knowing that many other places still
allow discrimination against homosexuals with no consequences.
Go To Jail For A Miscarriage? Report of Fetal Death by Mother Penalty
Twelve
months in jail and a $2,500 fine for failing to contact
the police to report a miscarriage within 12 hours is
what Delegate
John A. Cosgrove (R) of Chesapeake has in mind for a law
(HB1677) that could be in effect in a few short months
in Virginia. Failure to do so will be as punishable as
a Class 1 Misdemeanor.
Cosgrove’s
bill requires any woman who experiences “fetal death”
without a doctor’s assistance to report this to the local
law-enforcement agency within twelve hours of the miscarriage.
Almost
all states mandate reporting of fetal deaths to vital
statistics bureaus. These statistics are then collected
nationally by the CDC. In most states, health care providers
must provide statistics on fetal deaths after 20 weeks
gestation (or at a certain fetal weight approximating
20 weeks gestation). Virginia is one of only 7 states,
however, that mandate the reporting of deaths of all “products
of conception” regardless of gestational age.
This
includes both spontaneous losses of pregnancy and induced
terminations of pregnancy, though the required data fields
are different for abortions. In Virginia, all losses of
pregnancy must be reported by health care providers according
to current law. The reality, though, is that countless
women experience spontaneous abortions in the first few
gestational weeks without even being aware of pregnancy,
so not all pregnancies of early gestational age are reported.
Women
who experience miscarriages at home without a doctor’s
care may not even think to inform their doctors, especially
if the pregnancy is so early that they have not yet even
sought prenatal care.
Until
this bill, though, no one has suggested it was in the
interest of the Commonwealth of Virginia to track down
these unreported losses of "products of conception."
The
Bill proposed states that when a fetal death occurs without
medical attendance, it shall be the woman's responsibility
to report the death to the law-enforcement agency in the
jurisdiction of which the delivery occurs within 12 hours
after the delivery. A violation of this section shall
be punishable as a Class 1 misdemeanor. This
bill proposes that a woman report a loss of a pregnancy
to the Commonwealth, whatever the gestational age of the
embryo/fetus.
Furthermore,
this bill means that a woman who experiences a spontaneous
loss of pregnancy will have her privacy violated significantly
more than if she had chosen an abortion. Though Virginia
requires that induced terminations of pregnancy be reported,
those reporting forms require only a “patient number”
and information on the procedure.
The
“report of fetal death” asks for the woman’s full name,
her history of prenatal care, her marital status, her
education history, her previous deliveries (if any), and
a number of other very intrusive data items.
If
the miscarriage occurred under a physician’s care, all
of this information would be provided by the physician
out of the patient’s medical records. Physicians and/or
funeral directors are given 24 hours to file this report.
Delegate Cosgrove’s bill gives women who experience miscarriage
without a doctor only 12 hours to report, adding insult
to injury.
Since
the 100-member Virginia House of Delegates is dominated
by over 60 Republicans, it will take a wide public awareness
campaign to defeat this bill. It has become too easy for
the Republicans in the Virginia legislature to sneak through
bills like this one, and the most potent weapon available
for defeating this bill is awareness.
Nude
Jogger Shocked With Taser
In
Arkansas police used a Taser to subdue a nude jogger who
had been making late-night runs in West Memphis. Apparently
the late night streaking was going on for over six months,
but the jogger was arrested after he ran past a police
car and failed to stop when he was ordered to do so by
officers. After his capture, Patterson was charged with
indecent exposure, fleeing and resisting arrest. No one
so far has expressed any reason as to why the nude jogger
was nude.
ASACP Receives Service Recognition Award
First Amendment attorney Lawrence G. Walters received
the 2005 Annual Service Recognition Award from Adult Sites
Against Child Pornography (ASACP), during the January
6th, 2005 XBiz Awards presentation in Las Vegas. Director
Joan Irvine congratulated Walters for being a staunch
supporter of ASACP and for caring about children, and
offering his services to the group pro bono.
Known for representing adult entertainment and other clients
in First Amendment cases, Walters founded the Internet
Freedom Association and is a member of Free Speech Coalition's
Internet Committee. He also founded and chairs the Florida
Bar Association's First Amendment Law Committee. Walters
most recently addressed a Free Speech Coalition gathering
on updates to Title 18, Section 2257, and the newly-expanded
federal labeling law, during this month's Adult Entertainment
Expo. We applaud Lawrence and the ASACP for all the wonderful
work that they do!
Porn
Still Under Attack
President Bush's nominee Alberto M. Gonzales to replace
John Ashcroft as Attorney General of the United States,
is committed to enforcing federal obscenity laws.
This
is important, since it is the first public statement of
his views on adult material that anyone has been able
to uncover since his nomination.
The
topic first arose when Sen. Mike DeWine (R-Oh.) asked
the candidate what he'd like to be remembered for, four
years from now? Gonzales replied, in part, "I think obscenity
is something else that very much concerns me. I've got
two young sons, and it really bothers me about how easy
it is to have access to pornography."
That
statement led to a later exchange that was as revealing
about the plans of committee member Sen. Sam Brownback
(R-Kan.) about Gonzales' views on sexually explicit material.
Senator Brownback urged Gonzales to investigate the hypothesis
presented before his Subcommittee on Science, Technology,
and Space that pornography was an addictive commodity,
suggesting that perhaps the DOJ could prosecute porn providers
on those grounds.
What is bothersome about all the statements of the "addictive
qualities" of porn thus allowing justifications to
make it illegal is that it is not only false that porn
itself is addictive, but that it allows no personal responsibility
of the viewer of porn. When we have alcoholics that are
highly addicted to beer and we do not dream of banning
it these days. Why? Because we see that it is a person's
responsibility to drink responsibly, just as it is a person's
responsibility to monitor themselves if they begin to
see that they have an addiction to porn and get help for
it.
The
average Joe is not an alcoholic nor is the average Joe
addicted to porn after viewing it. Porn is not addictive,
it is the person who has a dysfunctional view of sex that
is the cause and most often these dysfunctional views
of sex come from hyper repression of sexuality causing
internal conflict about what is healthy and what is not
sexually.
In an administration whose members and supporters are
so committed to wiping sexual speech from the societal
landscape, Gonzales' "commitment" to targeting adult material
and his "reassurances" not to politicize the DOJ and to
"administer justice" are bound to come into conflict with
each other. Time will tell.
Jenna Jameson Rocks The AVN Awards
The 2005, 22nd annual AVN Awards for excellence in adult
movies were full of wild humor and glamour. The two hour
show was full of fun, excitement and Jenna Jameson. Jenna
returned this year as as a brunette and carted home some
of the highest prizes- Best Actress - Film, Best Couples
Sex Scene - Film, Best Girl-Girl Sex Scene - Film. In
addition, her two starring videos, The Masseuse and Bella
Loves Jenna, got the top awards, Best Film and Best Video,
respectively.
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Trading Cards
Wicked Pictures debuted the first series of their new
adult trading cards at the Avn Adult Entertainment Expo
and was taking orders from customers throughout the day.
The
first series, produced through a joint licensing agreement
between Wicked Pictures and XXX Trading Cards Unlimited,
has a 100 card base set with subsets featuring “Up Close
And Personal” biography cards, “Hot Scenes” showing graphic
action from different Wicked releases, “Award Winners”
with shots of Wicked Girls in productions they received
AVN Awards for and “Jenna Jameson Anthology” cards featuring
Jameson in some of her classic Wicked performances.
Also
included are special insert cards such as “Lip Service”
cards actually kissed by Wicked’s contract girls, autograph
cards and memorabilia cards that feature fabric swatches
cut from outfits that Wicked Girls actually wore in various
productions, such as a lace blouse worn by Jessica Drake
in the AVN Award nominated film, The Collector. Angie
Shelton, general manager of Wicked Trading Cards, was
thrilled with the great response to the cards they are
getting at the show, saying to AVN.com, “It’s been just
so positive. A few of the responses I had this morning
was ‘What took you so long?’ The fans are so enthusiastic
about the cards and it’s wonderful to have them out.”
Alabama
Gay Basher And Them Homosexuals
Apparently, gay bashing is official business in Marshall
County, Alabama as Sheriff Mac Holcomb writes about on
the county web page. When you read Holcomb's letter you
certainly can get the feeling that he thinks we have dun
lost our way and are probably going straight to HELL.
I mean I can't imagine not believing that all men and
women are created equal and that organizations like the
ACLU that protect our civil liberties aren't important?
Oh that's right, it's called being a bigot.
While he doesn't specifically say whether we should return
to segregation, he is clear on how he feels about them
queers. In a letter on the official Marshall County
website, he writes:
"Men were men and women were women and there was
no mistaking which was which. Both were proud of their
individual roles. Homosexuality was very queer and a despicable
act… an abomination. During this era, those parents that
owned televisions didn't have to worry that their children
might be subjected to filth on television such as nudity,
the use of God's name in vain, and other profanity because
it was unheard of."
Now,
if an individual feels that way, that's their backward
way of looking at the world, but the fact that this is
the SHERIFF on the official county web site saying this
crap!?!
Holcomb
not only posted the letter on his website, he's posted
it in the lobby of his office since 1995. Feel free to
check it out yourself!
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Now that Greg Focker (Ben Stiller) is "in" with his soon-to-be
in-laws, Jack (Robert De Niro) and Dina (Blythe Danner)
Byrnes, it looks like smooth sailing for him and his fiancée,
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that's before Pam's parents meet Greg's parents, Bernie
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from the start, and no matter how hard Greg and Pam try,
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