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Sex
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A
gynecologist decides that he'd had it with gynecology.
He wanted to go and fulfill his lifelong dream
and become a car mechanic. So he studied hard,
and when he felt he was ready, he registered
to go take the state licensing test. The results
of the test arrived a few weeks later, and with
trembling hands he opened the envelope to discover
that he passed with flying colors! He got a
score of 200 points out of the 100 points possible.
"200 points out of 100 points possible?" he
asks himself. "How can that be?"
So
he calls the licensing board and they tell him:
"You see sir, you received 50 points for taking
the engine apart perfectly, 50 points for putting
the engine back perfectly, and 100 EXTRA points
for doing it all through the muffler."
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What
Makes
A
Good
Sexologist
And
Why We Need Them
by
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
Holistic
Wisdom Founder

Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
Author
& Sexologist
Holistic Psychotherapist
Founder Of Holistic Wisdom
Playboy's
Female Ejaculation Expert
Member
of American Association
of Sex Educators, Counselors,
and Therapists
AASECT
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Why
does the world need sex therapists and sexologists? While
sex is
the most natural thing in the world, it can also be frightening,
mystifying, and difficult to talk about, let alone engage
in it.
Often,
when people have been sexually molested, endured a sexually-related
illness, or have been psychologically traumatized, they
are unable to react to sexuality in a healthy manner.
Many
people who struggle with heir sexuality may no longer trust
others or feel loving towards themselves. They may believe
their sexual feelings are dangerous and wrong. For these
people sex therapists are important, because it is this
type of therapist who can work clients through such problems,
and encourage them to accept themselves and sex as important
and valuable parts of their lives.
What
Is Sexology?
Sexology
is an evolving science and so there isn't a universally
agreed description of what it means, but in a nutshell,
it is the study of all aspects of sex and sexuality. A
sexologist studies all aspects of sexuality from physical,
mental, emotional and spiritual.
Sexologists
typically work within the belief system that sex is good,
that relationships should be meaningful, and that intimacy
is a desirable goal. Sexologists meet all sorts of people,
and must be nonjudgmental, nonsexist, and not homophobic.
They treat emotional problems, communication difficulties,
and past traumas as part of teaching and/or providing therapy.
Sexologists try and get to the root of the problem, as well
as addressing the surface issue.
What
Do Sexologists Do?
From
teaching, writing to therapy Sexologist are usally quite
active in helping others to be better educated and more
satisfied sexually. Sexologists may host workshops and classes
for individuals, couples and families, school groups, and
community and religious centers while giving information
on everything from abuse recovery to using a condom.
Sexologists
should be able to help people who are experiencing difficulties
with physical disabilities, illness, surgery, aging, or
alcohol/drug abuse. They should be trained in a number of
areas, making them ready for any issue that may come up
as sexual issues are often interrelated to other aspects
of a person's life.
Who
Is A Good Candidate To Be A Sexoloist?
If you
want to be a sexologist, you can't be shy about discussing
graphic sexual acts, and highly personal and confidential
issues with people. Sexologists must be comfortable discussing
the sex lives of strangers openly, honestly, and in detail.
Therefore, they must be professional, mature, and nonjudgmental.
Can you imagine a asking a sexologist advise on whether
or not to swallow during a blow job and them wincing and
saying "Ooooh, that's gross." Sexologists ultimately
must see sexuality as beautiful.
Sexologists
need to be good listeners, as well as excellent communicators.
They need to have an interest in anatomy as well as psychology.
They need to be skilled mediators, as they may be dealing
with couples who have differing views and opinions. They
need to be sensitive, tactful, respectful, and they need
a good sense of moral ethics.
What Kind Of Education Do They Have?
Sexologists
usually have at least a bachelor's degree in psychology,
family studies, medicine, nursing, pastoral counseling,
social work, or sexology, along with a course or diploma
in counseling and therapy. The educational path of a potential
sexologist or sex therapist should cover sexual and non-sexual
therapy techniques, as relationship problems and past traumas
can be the main glitch in the client's sex life. It is a
good idea for sex therapists to register themselves with
an association such as ASSECT or a non-sexual association
such as NASW (National Association of Social Workers) or
other type of monitored association. Registration ensures
clients that the therapist is a legitimate, trained counselor.
Certification by these associations requires that therapists
have rigorous, recognized training, so it may be a good
idea to contact an association to plan your specific educational
path.
Also,
because many states have laws about practising psychotherapy
they must be registered with the state (if required) to
do so.
Highest
Good
Choosing
The Higher Path To Resolve Our Conflict
by
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
Holistic
Wisdom Founder
Watching
the movie Hero I began to reconnect with a
wisdom deep within that I had been out of touch with for
a while. I have been so often been overwhelmed with grief
due to the great violence that many men and women choose
to carry out everyday throughout the world. Whether it be
on a global or even interpersonal level, there seems to
be a better way to resolve conflict in this world than through
violence.
The
reasons we become involved in hate and violence are many.
For some it is in the name of love, for others it is for
honor, and then there are those that it is for hate. No
matter the root of the emotion driving the violence I have
found that it is fear that brings us there.
Look
at any acts of violence... domestic abuse, hate crimes or
war and you will find a deep insecurity inside the person
exhibiting the violence. Is it not true that bullies are
the most insecure deep down of all of us?
Watching
the movie Hero, I was reminded that it is
simply the evolution of man to evolve from a primitive,
gut reaction of violence, to mental and emotional grappling
and conflict with violence inwardly and outwardly, and then
finally to understand that the violence does not soothe
the pain that evokes it, rather, it amplifies it.
As Hero
is a story based on China's history, I began to think of
China as a country. I have often found myself feeling it
was such a symbol of adversarial values in my capitalist
country.
Then
I began to think about what China's leader was trying to
accomplish in the movie. He was trying to unify the world
to stop violence. I thought of the principles of communism
and a light bulb went on... the goal was originally to have
all men treated equally in a unified society. How peaceful,
yet because China was trying to create that world through
violence, force and control... it ultimately failed. It
occurred to me that they had part of the puzzle to a peaceful
world, but not the whole picture.
It made
perfect sense to me that the answer was that we all have
a piece of the puzzle... all of us, from each individual,
to each family, to each group of friends, to each city,
to each state, country, etc. We all have a piece and all
of our pieces create the whole picture... the picture of
unity and peace for all human kind.
What
the Chinese got wrong was that we should not all be the
same, that unity should occur not through force, but by
choice. It is through a peaceful example that we finally
see true power. In the end of the movie, when the character
Broken Sword dies, he gave the greatest gift to his lover
by showing her that he believed so much in the peace and
greater good of humankind that he was willing to give his
life to show it and in turn teach her the most valuable
lesson she needed which is that her revenge and hatred were
only amplified through her violence. Nothing was solved
and it is only through peace, acceptance of diversity and
free will of others that we can find the harmony that we
so long for in our hearts.
It is
in accepting that not only are all people different, but
that all people are evolving at different rates and working
on different issues. To expect everyone to be ready for
the same reality that we want to create is naive and ultimately
will cause us to fail. It is when we accept that it is through
unconditional love we will find the peace we seek. Love
of someone who is different than we are, who believes different
things, who behaves differently and who at times may even
cause us pain. When we can find unconditional love for ourselves
and for all else then we will finally experience our evolutionary
purpose.
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suffered tragic consequences as a result. In 1993, 20-year-old
Brandon (Hilary Swank) leaves Lincoln, Nebraska for the
nearby community of Falls City, where she sports a crew
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Relationship
& Sex Advice
With
hundreds of eMails coming in every day and while
I answer man, it is not possible for me to reply to all of them.
However,
I wanted to provide a section where we take some of our readers
questions and post them on our web site so that we can provide
answers that everyone can benefit from having the information
available on our web site.
To submit your question such
as those shown below eMail us for
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Hi
Lisa & John,
I
know you get a lot of email, so if I don't hear a response
I'll understand. I'm just hoping my question will be a
common one and will reach your "Ask Lisa" section in the
newsletter (which I thoroughly enjoy....excellent work!!)
I've
recently been receiving a lot of spam about products that
will supposedly increase the volume of your ejaculate.
The one product name that I can remember is called "Spur-M".
I'll admit I'm quite skeptical about it, but I'll freely
admit there's also a LOT of things I know nothing about.
Is it in any way possible that a supplement could do that?
If not, is there any other way?
I'm
48 and I've found that over the years the size of my "load"
is not what it used to be. I know that's a natural aging
phenomenon but if there's a way I could reverse that,
that would be very cool.
Thanks!
David
Hi
David,
Thank
you for your question. Honestly, I can not tell you exactly
how many times I have been asked this, but I know that
it is in the triple digits so it is a perfect topic to
share with you fellow readers.
The
three most commonly asked questions by men are- 1) How
to make their penis larger. 2) How to prevent premature
ejaculation or simply extend sex before allowing themselves
to orgasm. 3) How to make themselves ejaculate more powerfully,
and in greater amounts.
Is
This What Women Want?
I
find the desire to increase ejaculate from men a little
humorous because a lot of women ask me how to avoid contact
with male ejaculate from not wanting to swallow it to
not wanting it on them. That is not to say that many women
don't love slathering themselves in it or do enjoy swallowing
and tasting... because there are and I am one of them...
however, I think that men often have a different understanding
of what women perceive as a sexually viral and powerful
man. I can assure you that most of us really are not thinking
that a man that ejaculates a lot is sexier than a lover
that ejaculates an average to smaller amount.
I
think that I can speak for most women in that we are often
more impressed with the taste and what you have been consuming
to make it sweeter versus bitter not the amount. But,
for men who find it to be a goal, and there are many of
you out there, I think it wise to first review what causes
your ejaculate to be in smaller or larger amounts before
we get to the products that claim to do it.
What
Makes A Man Ejaculate More or Less Cum?
The
volume of ejaculation is most often related to how often
you ejaculate. Two things can happen: If you refrain from
ejaculation, your semen will build up over a few days
and then you can shoot a larger load. Or if you ejaculate
often, the loads can be small initially, but over time
your body will compensate by making more semen by ejaculating
larger loads.
Let's
take a look at what is involved so you will better understand
how this all works-
Ejaculatory
Ducts:
These passage ways are how your semen gets delivered to
your urethra during ejaculation.
Epididymis:
This area is where your immature sperm develop into mature
sperm where they remain until you're ready to ejaculate.
Testicles:
The boys produce both sperm and testosterone, and within
each ball exists over half a mile of ducts that generate
sperm.
Prostate
Gland:
The male G-spot, the prostate gland is the about the size
of a walnut and surrounds the upper part of the urethra
(your pee hole). When you're sexually aroused, this gland
shuts the uretheral passage to the bladder.
Seminal
Vesicles:
This is where you produce seminal fluid the fluid that
protects your sperm.
Vas
deferens:
This is the tube that leads from the epididymis to the
seminal vesicles. When you ejaculate, the first few contractions
are the most intense and occur about one second apart.
The
Products-
Perhaps
you may have noticed that we do not promote ejaculate
increasing drugs on our web site. The reason we do not
is because we do not believe them to deliver what they
promise and in some instances may even cause damage to
your health.
Porn
Tricks-
Remember
that porn videos are geared at presenting "good sex"
and often the really large loads you see men ejaculating
are not real, but are enhanced by various tricks. You
should be aware that the size of the load has nothing
to do with the intensity of your orgasm or your value
as a sex partner.
Be
A Smart Consumer-
From
porn stars Peter North to Bruno B endorsing volume increasing
ejaculate pills that " increase your volume by up
to 500% allowing you to shoot up to 13 feet," according
to the marketing hype, you will find no shortage of attempts
to sell you these products.
The
most popular products right now are Semenax
and Volume Pills.
Herbs
that are popular to recommend are-
Maca-
A Root (Lepidium meyenii, Walpers) increase stamina, libido
and fertility in both men and women.
Lecithin-
(Nervous, Circulatory) is a fat-like substance called
a phospholipid. Used primarily for High Cholesterol, Cardiovascular
Disease, Overweight, Low Energy, Alcoholism
Don't
Forget About The Disclaimers-
Common
disclaimers that companies like these toss around are
"Results may vary," and "This information
is not a substitute for professional medical advice,"
"This product is not intended to prevent or treat
any disease and has not been evaluated by the Food and
Drug Administration."
These
disclaimers should not be taken lightly. What they are
saying essentially is that their product may not work
for you and that they will not be responsible if it doesn't
or if you should have a major health problem from taking
their product. While some of them offer a money back guarantee,
you may want to know that these companies can make that
near impossible for you to actually get your money back
claiming that your results may vary or that you have not
taken them correctly.
You
need to be aware that as the consumer you have the responsibility
to yourself to be educated about the chemicals and supplements
that you decide to take because you may not be at all
happy with the consequences if you don't.
The
Affiliate Lure-
The
other thing that I could not help but notice is that the
Blogs are filled with advice on this stuff, but the links
they are providing are often affiliate links. For those
of you who aren't familiar with the world of affiliate
programs... basically there are companies that offer a
percentage or flat dollar amount for each sale that their
affiliates refer to their web site. They then provide
a special link that will credit each affiliate for the
sale of that product.
Often
you can spot them because they will have an affiliate
code after the main link... such as http://www.HolisticWisdom.com/?123.htm
where a normal link would simply be http//:www.HolisticWisdom.com.
However, some affiliate programs provide blind links to
use (meaning there is a redirect with no code shown to
prevent the consumer from knowing it is an affiliate link)
and you will never know that you were even referred by
one.
In
fact Peter North's web site has a link to the Volume Pill
web site and it is an affiliate link. In turn the company
Volume Pills can claim that any of the
people that are linking to their site to earn income are
endorsing their product. In reality, none of the affiliates
may have ever tried it... the affiliates just know that
the product sells well and they are making a lot of money
getting the referral fees for it. Whether they have tired
it and believe in it is really only known by them.
Please
know that there is nothing wrong with affiliate programs,
in fact we offer one ourselves. The point I am trying
to make here is that you need to understand that a lot
of marketing is hype. The person in a blog or chatroom
who swears that these products worked for them and then
gives you a link to the site, may simply be promoting
the affiliate program they belong to so that they can
earn income and may never have even tired the product.
Again,
it is not about saying that all these companies are bad
or want to cause you harm, it is about you being an educated
consumer that has your best interests in mind.
What
May Work-
PC
Exercises
While
Kegel exercises can help you last longer, they can also
aid in increasing the length in which you ejaculate. There
are a host of exercises you can do to keep your penis
in great shape and shoot like a champion.
Learn
how to do Kegel Exercises For Men.
Amino
Acids
Amino
acids are believed to increase ejaculate fluid (not the
amount of actual sperm but the seminal fluid) if taken
regularly. Some amino acids include: L-Arginine L-Lysine
L-Carnitine
Zinc
Zinc has been shown to improve both the amount of sperm
you produce and the sperm's ability to move spontaneously
and independently. Coupled with amino acids, this will
increase sperm volume significantly.
Horny
Goat Weed
Also called epimedium sagittatum, this plant boosts both
your libido and testosterone levels, hence leading to
stronger ejaculation.
Pumpkin
Seeds
While they may not readily increase sperm volume, they
do enhance prostate health and testosterone production.
And
the list goes on and on. There are a lot of supplements
out there that may help and Chinese medicine offers a
great deal of them. Visiting an Acupuncturist is a great
way to learn more about them.
Don't
Overdose!
I
have hear a lot of men who begin taking normal, recommended
dosages of pills or supplements and then begin taking
huge amounts to get results. Whatever you take, remember
that anything taken in large quantities may cause long
term damage and should be avoided.
In
Closing
There
are many products out on the market right now that claim
to be able to increase ejaculate fluid among other things.
Ask your doctor and pharmacist if you want to take them
because it is not just about determining if they are effective,
or may cause health risks, but you need to determine base
don your health and other factors if YOU should be taking
them.
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Hi
Lisa,
I
just wanted to say how much I loved your video The Art
of Female Ejaculation! I was not sure what to expect...
I mean I guess I was not sure if it would be boring or
even helpful. I am happy to say that I found it to not
only be full of great information that both my husband
and I have really benefited from, but we found it quite
sexy too! I am also happy to report that I am 40 years
old and was able to ejaculate for the first time last
night. Thank you for educating women on something that
should be taught to us as young girls as part of our sex
education. You have a huge fan in both of us!
Leslie
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A
young boy knows about sex and where babies come from because
his mother told him that "the man puts his penis inside
the woman and she gets pregnant." A few days later, after
pondering this for some time, the boy asks in all the
innocence and wonder of a child, "Does the man ever get
his penis back?"
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Hi,
First
of all I'd like to say how much I've enjoyed your site
for the past year since I've first discovered it. Secondly,
I'd just wanted to say that you and your husband have
inspired me to study to become a sexual therapist. I know
the career move may be a difficult one, but the way I
see it, I won't be happy until I do what my heart desires
as my career. I love the way you two present sexual advice
in a way that isn't dirty but is still informative and
I'd like to be able to be a part of that. I'd like to
help in the opening of the eyes of the new generation
and be able to let them know that sex and all things related
to sex does not have to be dirty. It is something that
can and should be enjoyed. Well, I just thought you'd
like to know. Thank you once again for inspiring me to
make this move.
Your
reader,
Aquaria
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I
find your newsletter very interesting and informative,
it's very well done and professional.
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Sex
Toys Interests Singapore
While
inflatable sex dolls are still illegal in conservative
Singapore, sex toys are beginning to make their way into
acceptance so that stores may sell them.
Right now there are seven or eight such stores in the
tiny island-nation of four million people. Some shops
make up to 1,000 Singapore dollars (606 US dollars) a
day. Surveys have shown that Singaporeans have sex less
frequently than other Asians.
The
city-state also suffers from a serious shortage of babies
because couples are postponing parenthood, or are simply
unable to procreate because they are too busy or stressed
out. So it seems that people are starting to use these
items to spice up their sex lives, which may have become
monotonous.
According
to shop owners, popular items include vibrators,
massage
oils and artificial
vaginas made of silicon. Yet according
to shop owner Chan, the items in his shop are tame compared
to those sold in similar shops in Japan and Western countries.
"We
have customers turning up, usually the younger ones, asking
for more realistic and vivid sex toys they've seen overseas.
Unfortunately, we have to turn them down, or offer them
alternatives," said Chan.
Local laws state that it is an offense to sell, distribute,
exhibit import or export an "obscene object". Those found
guilty can be jailed for up to three months, or fined,
or both. But the jury is out as to what local authorities
deem obscene, with the police advising interested parties
to consult their lawyers first before setting up shop.
Adult-shop
owners are having a field day teasing their customers
into shedding their inhibitions, even if it can be an
arduous process. "Asians in general don't have open minds.
Some of my customers who are first-time buyers dare not
ask how the various items work, or even worse, be seen
by their friends entering my shop," said saleslady Lee.
She
has strong opinions about some local men who visit her
shop. "A few can sound like experts when explaining to
their friends the benefits of buying things like vibrators
for their partners. But they themselves will never buy
the products, preferring to pop by later alone," she scoffed.
Shop owners are more impressed with female customers,
who tend to be frank with their sexual needs and are not
afraid to ask direct questions. "For example, when buying
a vibrator, they want to know the intensity of the vibration,
so that they can get the exact piece they need," said
Chan.
But
not everyone in society can readily accept the presence
of adult novelty shops. Shop owners say they have encountered
foul-mouthed parents who accuse them of leading their
children astray, as well as critics who claim that such
shops promote sexual promiscuity. Lee, who is married
to a car audio shop owner in his 30s, said some customers
claim to have wives stricken with terminal disease who
are unable to have sex with them. "They tell me they don't
wish to cheat on their wives, and are only looking to
relieve themselves through these toys. How can that be
possibly wrong?"
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Fighting Harsh Adult Entertainment Regulations
The
Free Speech Coalition (FSC) and the Association of Club
Executives (ACE) members are mobilizing to fight a state
bill (SB 32) which proposes a wide range of harsh adult
entertainment regulations. The bill is currently on a
fast track through the Missouri Senate, headed for a Judiciary
Committee hearing.
Among
the numerous provisions in this bill Is a “sin” tax requiring
adult businesses to pay a $5 admission tax for each person
entering the business, the funds to be deposited into
the “State Schools Money Fund."
The
bill also creates a 20% sales tax for adult businesses.
SB 32 requires employees to be over 21. It bans exhibition
of sexually explicit videos and live entertainment in
viewing rooms. The bill prohibits nudity. Semi-nudity
is allowed only if a person is an employee who does not
touch customers and remains a specified distance away
from patrons and behind a railing.
Under
the bill, all adult business must close between 10 PM
and 10 AM and no adult business can sell liquor. Free
Speech Coalition member Dick Snow asks for assistance
in notifying Missouri adult businesses of this threat
and urging them to get involved in this critical legislative
fight.
To
learn how you can help, contact-
Dick Snow
816-421-6657
Ann Michael, Executive Director of Missouri ACE
573-781-5400
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Adam
& Eve Fighting To Expand
Adam & Eve’s adult store national expansion plans are
meeting resistance in its first planned location outside
North Carolina. Nassau County lawyer Gary Baker, while
admitting that it may be impossible to stop the store,
is nonetheless attempting to organize a resistance. Baker
said that he plans to have someone photograph each person
who walks in the store, and place the photos on a Web
site and in local newspapers.
“Adam & Eve’s lawyers have grossly misjudged the determination
of the people in this community,” said Baker. “If the
county tries to stop Adam & Eve from opening on [highway]
A1A, it will be sued and most likely will lose,” said
Michael Parnell, Editor of Florida News-Leader, taking
a different view in an editorial. “We cannot afford the
waste of taxpayer money.” Parnell also warned of the legal
prowess of Adam & Eve’s Philip D. Harvey. “Harvey is a
forceful advocate for sexual pleasure and the freedom
to enjoy it,” said Parnell. “He is not afraid to fight
for what he believes is right.”
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Lap Dance Law Thrown Out By Nevada Judge
District
Court Judge Sally Loehrer judge ruled that a Las Vegas
law prohibiting strippers from fondling customers during
lap dances is unconstitutionally vague. She affirmed a
lower court ruling that as many as five misdemeanor criminal
cases filed against Las Vegas strippers should be dismissed.
The
ruling affects only dancers within city limits. The Clark
County Commission in 2002 limited touching between strippers
and patrons during private lap dances, specifically barring
strippers from touching or sitting on the customer's genital
area. But the municipal code was not as specific, saying
only that strippers and their patrons should not ``fondle''
or ``caress'' each other.
City
attorneys told Loehrer touching is illegal when dancers
engage in contact aimed at sexually arousing the customer.
But defense lawyer James Colin argued the lack of specifics
makes it impossible to enforce the law. ``It's too confusing,''
Colin said. ``No one knows.'' Under Loehrer's ruling,
no dancer in the city can be arrested for violating the
municipal code. The city is considering an appeal.
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Real
Life Romeo & Juliet
An Italian man committed suicide after his wife fell into
a coma, but just hours after he killed himself the woman
woke up. The 70-year-old man, Ettore, had sat by his wife's
bedside for four months after she slipped into a coma
following a heart attack. He finally gave up hope and
gassed himself in the garage of his family home. Less
than a day later, his wife, Rossana, woke up in her hospital
bed and immediately asked for him.
Oddly
the town in Italy where they live lies just 40 miles from
Verona, where fictional star-crossed lover Romeo killed
himself believing Juliet to have died. But minutes later
Juliet woke up and seeing Romeo dead, stabbed herself.
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Former Judge Masturbating In Court?
A former state judge in Oklahoma City, allegedly used
a sex toy called a penis pump in court, was charged with
three felony counts of indecent exposure by Oklahoma authorities.
Former Judge Donald Thompson, 58, pleaded not guilty in
the Creek County District Court in the northeastern Oklahoma
town of Sapulpa.
If
convicted, Thompson could face up to 10 years in prison
for each count. At the courthouse on Thursday, Thompson
was taken to a backroom where he provided a DNA sample
to authorities. Last year, a court reporter who worked
for Thompson was fired after she said she saw the judge
masturbate and use the penis pump during hearings. Other
witnesses claimed they saw Thompson use the pump in court.
Thompson stepped down in August after the allegations
came to light and the state attorney general acted to
remove him from the bench. Officials searched Thompson's
courtroom and chambers, and performed tests on carpet,
a chair, a trash can and the judge's robe. A preliminary
hearing has been scheduled for March 22.
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Eleven
Million Condoms
Brazil is one of the Latin American countries hardest
hit by the AIDS epidemic and will hand out a record 11
million condoms to prevent the spread of the disease during
its erotically charged Carnival festival when casual sex
rises.
The
"Dress Yourself" campaign is to remind revelers a condom
should be part of their outfit, no matter how little they
wear to parades and parties renowned for semi-nude, hip-thrusting
dancers. Millions of Brazilians and foreigners flock to
cities such as Rio de Janeiro, Salvador and Recife for
the Feb. 4 to Feb. 9 festival.
Crammed
streets and close contact in tropical heat intensifies
sexual relations, health authorities said. The safe-sex
campaign hits Brazilian television screens next week showing
grinning celebrities waving condoms as they dance to popular
Carnival samba tune, "What will you wear?" Brazil's AIDS
program uses free distribution of condoms and a cocktail
of free drugs to prevent the spread of the human immunodeficiency
virus, or HIV, which causes the disease.
Brazil,
a country of 180 million people, uses around 1.2 billion
condoms a year. The government wants to boost that number
to 3 billion by 2008 through free distribution and manufacture
of cheaper domestic products.
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Sex Shop Hold Up...
Give Me Your
Money & Blow Up Doll
Police
are searching for a pistol-wielding robber who stole female
leather bondage gear and an inflatable sex doll from an
erotica store in Milan. The clerk at the "Night Shop"
speculated that the raunchy robber might have been unsatisfied
with the payout of his hold-up, which only yielded him
about 60 euros ($78). He took an inflatable doll and a
leather outfit for a woman.
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Hookers
Complain It Being Too Bright
Antwerp, Belgian port city's waterfront will dim the bright
new lights after prostitutes complained they were putting
off potential clients. "We had some remarks from the prostitutes
that there was too much light, both for them and the clients,"
city council spokesman Jorn Verbeeck said.
Prostitutes
complained to city and police officials that the lights
installed in December did not give them enough privacy
and hurt business. The port, which tolerates prostitutes
in a select few streets near the waterfront, will next
week test an electric system to dim the lights, Verbeeck
said. If the test gets the thumbs-up from the city's sex
workers, the system will be rolled out across the red
light district.
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Viagra May Help Those With Enlarged Hearts
Tests on animals indicate Viagra may aid in the treatment
of enlarged hearts that can result from high blood pressure.
Plans are under way for a trial to determine if similar
results occur in humans given the drug widely used to
treat erectile dysfunction. The drug, known generically
as sildenafil citrate, blocked and even reversed some
of the heart enlargement in mice with blood pressure stress.
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Pope
Advocates Education To Prevent Aids
Pope John Paul II has said that education, chastity and
sexual fidelity are the responsible methods to combat
AIDS after Spanish bishops supported condom use to fight
the disease but then quickly reversed their position.
The Vatican has come under fire from AIDS activists because
it forbids use of condoms, even to prevent transmission
of the HIV virus. "The Holy See ... considers that
it is necessary above all to combat this disease in a
responsible way by increasing prevention, notably through
education about respect of the sacred value of life and
formation about the correct practice of sexuality, which
presupposes chastity and fidelity,'' John Paul said.
The
pope's comments came days after Spanish bishops made front-page
headlines by announcing an apparent change in policy toward
condom use. The
pope told members of a Vatican council on health care
issues that they should pay special attention to AIDS
victims.
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FDA Delays Morning After Pill
US
regulators have delayed a decision on whether to approve
over-the-counter sales of a Barr Pharmaceuticals "morning-after
pill" to prevent pregnancy, prompting a lawsuit from a
women's rights group.
Barr
said it was optimistic the Food and Drug Administration
ultimately would grant its request to sell the product,
called Plan B, without a prescription to women and girls
age 16 and older. The FDA said it would complete its review
"in the near future," according to a statement from Barr.
Plan B, sold now only by prescription, is an emergency
contraceptive that may prevent pregnancy if taken within
72 hours after sexual intercourse.
The
FDA is under political pressure from advocates and opponents
of expanding access to Plan B. Women's groups argue it
would reduce abortions, while some conservatives say it
would lead to more promiscuity and sexually transmitted
diseases, especially among teenagers," despite studies
that show it has no impact on women's sexual behavior.
Plan
B is different from RU-486, a pill that causes an abortion
early in pregnancy. RU-486 also is known as Mifeprex or
mifepristone.
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DNA Repair May Reduce Breast Cancer Risks
Repairing damaged DNA seems to affect a woman's chance
of developing breast cancer. Deficient DNA repair appears
to triple the risk of breast cancer, researchers have
found.
The
average percentage of damaged DNA that could be repaired
was significantly lower in the breast cancer patients
than in their unaffected siblings, investigators reported
in the Journal of the National Cancer Institute.
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Obscenity Laws Ruled Unconstitutional
In
a decision that is bound to have enormous impact on the
Adult entertainment industry, obscenity charges against
producer Rob Black and his wife Lizzy Borden of Extreme
Associates were thrown out of court today by a federal
judge in Pittsburgh. All ten counts were dismissed as
US District Court Judge Gary Lancaster made the dismissal
on the grounds that obscenity laws are unconstitutional.
“We
find that the federal obscenity statutes place a burden
on the exercise of the fundamental rights of liberty,
privacy and speech,” wrote Judge Lancaster in his opinion.
The judge based his decision on the Supreme Court’s Lawrence
vs. Texas ruling last year, which struck down a Texas
sodomy statute. Lawrence v. Texas said in effect that
the government can no longer use “compelling interest”
as a rationale for suppressing what adults many do in
private. The
Black ruling extends this concept to Adult entertainment.
In effect, you should be able to see what you’re able
to do.
Judge
Lancaster’s opinion: “After Lawrence, the government can
no longer rely on the advancement of a moral code, i.e.,
preventing consenting adults from entertaining lewd or
lascivious thoughts, as a legitimate, let alone a compelling
state interest.”
Walters
cautioned that since the case ended in a dismissal, not
an acquittal, the government will likely appeal.
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Inside
Deep Throat Documentary
"Inside Deep Throat" is a documentary that premiered this
month at the Sundance Film Festival. It examines the legacy
of the 1972 flick, a forerunner of today's hardcore adult-entertainment
industry and a touchstone for obscenity laws.
"Deep Throat" was shot for $25,000 in just six days. Its
male star was a film-crew member shoved in front of the
camera as a last-minute replacement. Its director readily
conceded it was not even a good movie. Yet it was a cultural
phenomenon whose theatrical grosses are estimated at $600
million, and it became an emblem of decadence for anti-pornography
crusaders and the namesake for an informer who helped
bring down a president.
"Inside Deep Throat" - produced by Brian Grazer, whose
films include "Apollo 13" and "A Beautiful Mind" - opens
theatrically in New York City, Los Angeles, San Francisco,
Boston and five other cities Feb. 11. Grazer had been
contemplating a film about "Deep Throat" star Linda Lovelace,
who died in a 2002 car crash, but found the focus too
narrow. "I was less interested in the story of Linda Lovelace
and more on the movie's effect on popular culture," Grazer
said.
Porn
movies previously had been made under the thin guise of
sober sex-education films, but "Deep Throat" had an irreverent
attitude. Co-star Harry Reems, the lighting director on
the film who stepped in after the original male lead did
not work out, played a doctor helping a patient played
by Lovelace cope with an unusual "condition" - a sexually
sensitive area at the back of her throat. "It was the
first porn film to drop any pretense that it had educational
value," said Reems, now a real-estate broker in Park City.
"There was no socially redeeming value, and so the word
of mouth went out from people who saw it saying 'This
is just a comedy. It's great. You've got to see this."
Its
director, Jerry Damiano, said he did not think "Deep Throat"
was a good movie, yet it overcame its preposterous story
and cheesy production values. After "Deep Throat" opened
in Times Square, attention from media critics and outraged
conservatives turned it into a must-see movie. Arriving
amid the women's liberation movement, "Deep Throat" was
also heralded as a celebration of female sexual fulfillment.
"It was the first time respectable middle-class women
went to porn theaters," social critic Camille Paglia says
in an interview in "Inside Deep Throat."
Other
cultural commentators appearing in the documentary include
Norman Mailer, Ruth Westheimer, Gore Vidal, Erica Jong
and Hugh Hefner. Incorporating explicit oral-sex footage
from the 1972 original, "Inside Deep Throat" has drawn
an NC-17 rating, prohibiting people younger than 17 from
seeing it. Showing the notorious sex act was necessary
for the documentary, said "Inside Deep Throat" directors
Fenton Bailey and Randy Barbato, the filmmakers behind
such acclaimed documentaries as "Party Monster" and "The
Eyes of Tammy Faye." "There was no way we were going to
make a film called `Inside Deep Throat' without including
the act," Barbato said. "Our film is not salacious or
gratuitous. That scene needed to be in there."
The
movie was so ingrained in popular culture that "Deep Throat"
became the nickname of the source who helped Washington
Post reporters Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein investigate
the Watergate scandal that led to President Nixon's resignation.
"Deep Throat" was the object of repeated legal assaults
by anti-smut forces. The most notable case was aimed at
Reems, who was convicted of obscenity in 1976 and faced
a potential five-year prison term.
Celebrities
including Jack Nicholson and Warren Beatty came to Reems'
defense, and the conviction was overturned. What happened
to its supposed $600 million in theatrical revenues is
a mystery. Lovelace, Reems and director Damiano never
got any of it. Normal film-distribution channels were
closed to "Deep Throat" because of its subject matter,
so much of the distribution was handled by outfits linked
to organized crime.
Theaters
were visited daily by bagmen who collected the receipts
in cash. There was no formal accounting and everyone involved
skimmed off a piece of the action, Bailey and Barbato
said. "I suppose it's kind of Hollywood-like," Bailey
said. "The money just disappears."
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Marriage
Protection Amendment
Senator
Wayne Allard (R-CO) has reintroduced the Marriage Protection
Amendment (MPA) on the Senate floor making it one of the
first items of business in the first full week of President
Bush’s second term.
In
light of the many serious issues that our country is facing,
it is absolutely outrageous that a small group of right-wing
Senators would make discriminating against gays and lesbian
people their TOP priority right now. But just as we did
during the past two bouts with the Amendment last year,
the Human Rights Campaign
will fight them every step of the way. Here’s what you
can do now to stop this hateful amendment:
1)
Write your Senators today and urge them to oppose the
newly reintroduced Marriage Protection Amendment and ANY
efforts to put discrimination in our Constitution. Click
here to send an e-mail now.
2)
Follow up your e-mail with a phone call. After you’ve
sent your e-mails, make a phone call to each of your Senators
as well. You can call the Capitol switchboard at 202-224-3121
and ask to be connected to your Senators' office.
Use
your own words to let your Senators know about your opposition,
or follow our script:
“My
name is _________ and I live in the Senator’s state. I
am calling to urge the Senator to oppose the so-called
‘Marriage Protection Amendment’ that will discriminate
against same-sex couples. This amendment does nothing
to ‘protect’ marriage. Instead, it singles out a group
of people for discrimination in the United States Constitution.
The Constitution has always been used to guarantee rights
and freedoms, not to take them away. I strongly urge the
Senator to oppose the amendment.
Thank
you.
3)
Spread the word. Our combined response must be loud and
immediate. There is no doubt that the extreme right-wing
has already begun mobilizing their activists. We must
drown them out by being louder, larger, and more organized.
As
you might guess, the legislators behind this amendment
are responding to a small but vocal group of right wing
individuals and organizations who try to discriminate
against the gay and lesbian community at every turn. It
is the job of fair-minded Americans like us to tell them
that they are wrong. Thank you for your immediate action
today. We are glad you are with us, and urge you to stay
tuned for news about what’s next.
Sincerely,
Seth
Kilbourn
National Field Director
Human Rights Campaign
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Armpit
Sweat Great Pheromone For Sex!
Researchers
claim women who wore perfume with an added chemical found
in female sweat were more likely to have sex than those
who did not. The pheromone Athena
10:13 works naturally for younger women
as a "sexual attractant" but levels fall after the menopause
reports the Mirror. In the Harvard University-linked study,
22 post-menopausal women used the chemical while 22 others
used a placebo. Women on dates found a 68 per cent increase
in sex compared to 41 per cent using plain perfume. According
to New Scientist magazine all women using the spray found
a 41 per cent increase in kissing and other physical affection,
compared to 14 per cent using the placebo.
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Unsafe
Sex Making US Standout
The
public health burden related to unsafe sexual activity
is three times higher in the US than in other developed
nations, according to researchers at the Centers for Disease
Control and Prevention. Nearly all the premature deaths
and adverse health consequences are preventable. Sexual
behavior can lead to a variety of harmful consequences,
such as unintended pregnancies and infections.
20
million cases of adverse health conditions (7532 per 100,000
population) and 30,000 deaths (1.3 percent of US deaths)
were a consequence of unsafe sexual behavior. The majority
of this public health burden falls on women - 62 percent
of behavior-related adverse health events. Cervical cancer
was the leading cause of sex-related mortality among women,
followed by HIV. Men suffered the majority of deaths (66
percent), primarily from HIV.
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Male
Circumcision Reduces Risk of HIV Transmission From Women
to Men
The first study to examine the probability of HIV infection
per act of heterosexual sex among a population with multiple
sexual partners has found that uncircumcised men have
more than twice the risk of acquiring HIV than do circumcised
men.
- The Journal of Infectious Diseases
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Unsafe
Sex With Parental Notification
The
Journal of the American Medical Association has shown
that laws that would require parents to be notified when
teens seek birth control would do little to curb underage
sex and could cause a troubling number of girls to engage
in unsafe intercourse.
Parental-notification
proposals that would affect federally funded clinics have
been repeatedly introduced in Congress in the past few
years. Local laws are already in place in Texas, Utah
and in McHenry County, Ill.
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School
Board Opposes Abstinence-only
Sex Ed Video
The Washoe County district’s SHARE sex education advisory
committee rejected the video last year on a vote of 8-2.
In a letter to the board of trustees, SHARE committee
member Nancy Lim criticized the video for suggesting that
condoms “don’t work” and for potentially inspiring irrational
fears. “The over-hyped, fear-based tone was felt to be
a turnoff for many teens who most needed to hear the abstinence
message,” Lim said.
“Examples
of the alarmist format included blood dripping into a
sink when a link was drawn between teen suicide rates
and teen sexuality.” The video was introduced to the board
by trustee Lezlie Porter, the only member who voted in
favor of it. Porter said the video offers updated, scientific
information to teens. She said it would be an improvement
over the current seventh-grade sex-education video used
in the district, which Porter called a “talking head”
video. The video currently used in the district was produced
in the late 1980s by a pathologist at the University of
Nevada, Reno.
“There’s
no compelling message” in the current tape, Porter said.
“It’s just, ‘Here’s an STD, here’s what it looks like,
now onto the next one.’ ” Porter said the proposed video
would give children more clear direction on the dangers
of extramarital sex. “I think the message of (the proposed)
video is that kids need to be careful, and that abstinence
is the best choice,” Porter said.
Trustee
Jonnie Pullman, who voted against adopting the proposed
video, called the video “sensationalized.” “I really did
expect to support this film. And I don’t,” Pullman said.
“It reminds me of a few videos I saw in school. One was
‘Red Highways.’ ” Pullman referred to an education film
from a genre infamous for scaring teenagers with graphic
depictions of car accidents. Trustee Barbara Price said
the proposed video could be harmful to students. “In several
instances throughout the film, … kids could be led to
believe that if you’re sexually active, depression can
follow and also suicide,” Price said.
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