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Love
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Sex
Joke of the Week-
A
Captain in the foreign legion was transferred to a desert
outpost. On his orientation tour he noticed a very old,
seedy looking camel tied out back of the enlisted men's
barracks. He asked the Sergeant leading the tour, "What's
the camel for?". The Sergeant replied "Well sir it's
a long way from anywhere, and the men have natural sexual
urges, so when they do, uh, we have the camel." The
captain said "Well if it's good for moral, then I guess
it's all right with me."
After he had been at the fort for about 6 months the
captain could not stand it any more so he told his Sergeant,
"BRING IN THE CAMEL!!!" The "Sarge" shrugged
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The captain got a foot stool & proceeded to have vigorous
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Tight
Foreskin When
It Is Normal & When It Is Not
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
Member
of American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors,
and Therapists
( AASECT )
Many men have
questions about their penis and in this article we will be focusing
on the issue of tight foreskin. Often it is easy to worry if you
are not informed about what is normal and abnormal, what needs
medical attention, and what does not. Certainly, we encourage
men to talk
to your doctor about their concerns as it is the best
way to evaluate any issue on an individual basis.
Phimosis-
Your
Foreskin Won't Go Back Over Your Penis
Sometimes
the foreskin forms what is called medically called "phimosis"
- which means there's a tight opening at the end of the foreskin
which isn't big enough to allow the foreskin to slide smoothly
back over the glans and expose the penis head.
See the
picture below-
The gliding movement of the foreskin over the glans is important
for several reasons. First,
the movement of the foreskin back and forth is the natural movement
that uncircumcised men use when masturbating their erect penis.
It can be uncomfortable to have an erection with a tight foreskin
completely covering the head of the penis, especially if the
foreskin isn't naturally very long.
Second,
when the erect penis slides in and out of the vagina as the
man thrusts during intercourse, the penis slides up and down
inside the sleeve of skin formed by the foreskin. Again, it
can be uncomfortable to have a tight stretched foreskin that
won't go back over the glans as all of the sensations from the
coronal ridge at the bottom of the glans, not to mention the
sensations from the Frenulum, are dulled by the protective layer
of foreskin which continues to cover them, even during sex.
Third, smegma,
that naturally accumulating layer of white stuff under the foreskin,
which is made up of dead skin and skin oils, cannot be cleaned
away when the foreskin won't retract, and it can begin to smell.
What
Does Tight Mean?
In uncircumcised
boys and men, it's natural for the foreskin to swell up (balloon)
when you're urinating. This does not necessarily mean the foreskin
is tight. The best test of a tight foreskin is whether it will
go back when your penis is erect.
A tight
foreskin is not uncommon, and many men live with it all their
lives. But many boys and men are distressed when their foreskin
won't go back, and want to know what to do about it.
Normal
In Young Males
The first
thing to remember is that in small boys, the foreskin will not
retract much and this is natural. It shouldn't be forced back,
because it's attached by adhesions to the glans surface. Left
alone, it will separate naturally in time. If it's pulled back
too soon, both the glans and foreskin may be scarred, and this
can result in an over-sensitive glans in later life.
Foreskins
don't usually retract fully until a boy is approaching puberty
or sometimes during puberty. But if by about 15 years of age
or so, a foreskin won't go back, it may be a phimosis.
What
Causes Phimosis?
There are
two main causes of phimosis - the first is that it's just an
accident of nature. Up to ten percent of teenage boys have a
tight foreskin. The other cause is long term fungal infection
(like Athlete's Foot) at the end of the foreskin, which results
in the tissue scarring and forming a tight band of scar tissue
at the very tip of the foreskin. The remedy for this fungal
condition is most often circumcision.
But for
some tight foreskins, stretching it gently every day so as to
widen the foreskin and allow it to move freely. Here's how you
do it.
It's wise
not to force it to find out, though, because if it's very tight,
and it does go back behind the coronal rim, it may get stuck
and refuse to come forward again while the penis is erect. This
is known as Paraphimosis, and it's potentially
dangerous, as it cuts off the blood supply to the glans.
The best advice is to go to hospital if you cannot move it using
the following technique-
If the retracted
foreskin becomes swollen with fluid (oedematous), its appearance
can be very alarming. This may happen if you fall asleep with
your foreskin retracted, for example.
If you have
a retracted foreskin and pain inability to urinate a tight band
around the back of the glans, and/or a firm or hard glans (with
no erection) it is very important to bring the foreskin forward
to its normal position. If this is not done, the tissues may
die from lack of fresh (oxygenated) blood and the glans may
even fall off! The dead (necrotic) tissue is black.
How To
Bring Foreskin Back
You can
probably bring your foreskin back yourself. The procedure is
very like getting a tight ring off your finger. The essence
of getting the glans back through the foreskin is not stretching
the foreskin, but compressing the glans. Gently squeezing it
and pushing it with your thumbs will press the blood back down
the penis and make it smaller. It can then be pushed back through
the narrowest part of your foreskin. A drop or two of something
slippery like cooking oil or sexual
lubricant on the glans may help.
The person
reducing the Paraphimosis by this method needs to know that
the process will hurt, but only momentarily. One good way to
reduce the swelling is by covering the penis in ordinary (granulated)
sugar. This draws the fluid out of the penis by osmosis.
Note:
If there is difficulty in retraction, do not use any force,
there is a danger of Paraphimosis.
How
Do I Know If I Have Paraphimosis?
It is when
the phimotic ring gets trapped behind the glans causing the
glans to swell up) can be dangerous and is a medical emergency.
Paraphimosis is a potential crisis - when it occurs it needs
to be reduced immediately. My understanding is that the nerves
and other structures in the glans begin to suffer permanent
damage within about 20 minutes. If left untreated in severe
cases the glans itself may be lost.
If this
fails, it is important to see a doctor. S/he can draw
off the fluid with a hypodermic needle or, as a last resort,
cut through the tight band. Recently, another method has been
recommended, the "Dundee technique". This involves pricking
the swollen prepuce about 20 times (under anesthetic) and letting
the fluid escape. The
doctor may then recommend circumcision or try to order it, but
if the doctor has put a slit in your foreskin, that is probably
enough and it won't happen again.
Other
approaches to dealing with a tight foreskin
Stretching
is but one alternative to circumcision, though many boys and
men with this problem simply opt for the chop. An alternative
modern procedure involves the use of steroid creams, which may
loosen the skin and allow it to move more freely. Another alternative
is the dorsal slit technique, whereby a small cut is made in
the foreskin to allow it to slide over the glans.
If stretching
works you will only achieve a temporary improvement. One must
keep stretching a phimotic ring after a few days it will simply
start closing up again. On the other hand, this daily stretching
will become easier and may turn into an enjoyable pastime. If
circumcision is something you wish to consider you can read
more about it through our Adult
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Vaginal
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Why It Happens, What To Do
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
Many
women also experience changes in their vagina. With arousal,
the vagina may tilt upwards and become longer. It may also become
wet with a "sweating" of the vaginal walls. This is not female
ejaculation which comes from the Skenes Glans is similar
to prostate fluid in a male. This
lubrication of a woman's genitals is caused by the release of
a special fluid from the "vaginal epithelium" (the walls of
the vagina). This fluid is not like the sweat of your skin,
but is what scientists call a "modified plasma transudate."
In general, the release of this fluid serves by making vaginal
and vulva play more comfortable during sexual play. It also
aids in the movement of sperm up the vaginal canal, increasing
the likelihood of impregnation.
Many people take this "sweating" of the vagina as a reliable
sign that a woman is sexually excited, or even that she is "ready"
for vaginal play or intercourse. Beware of such assumptions!
Women sometimes lubricate vaginally when they are not sexually
aroused, and women often feel erotically aroused without becoming
vaginally wet.
Excess
lubrication, even though some women feel almost embarrassed
by it, can easily be solved by use of an absorbent external
panty-liner. Dryness is another common problem, and is easily
addressed.
Some women simply do not lubricate so plentifully, or at least
not plentifully enough to keep pace with their sexual wishes.
While some women become dry when anxious or under stress. Many
women become drier with the frequent use of tampons, other internal
sanitary devices, or douches. And most women will become drier
with the use of prescription medications that have anticholinergic
or sympathomimetic effects which dry out the "mucosal" or wet
tissues of the mouth and vagina. These include many common drugs
for allergic, cardiovascular, psychiatric, and other medical
conditions. You can always ask your physician before getting
a prescription or pharmacist after getting one as the what effects,
if any, will this medicine have on your sex life.
All women become drier as they approach and proceed through
menopause. This is because menopause causes a thinning of the
vaginal walls (from about nine epithelial layers to about three),
with a consequent loss of their elasticity and their capacity
to produce fluid.
The solution to all these difficulties is to use artificial
lubricants for sexual play. Many brands are available in the
"Feminine Hygiene" or "Family Planning" sections of your local
drug stores including our own selection of lubricants.
Be careful of using K-Y Plus types of lubricants that
contain Nonoxynol and might irritate your vagina. Astroglide
is a favorite. This is an all water-soluble lubricant with glycerin
giving it slippery properties. Such lubricants are usually odorless,
tasteless, and sterile. They may also be hypoallergenic.
When finding a "lube" that suits your erotic life, there
are three rules:
One
Always use a water-soluble lube. Never put a petroleum-based
lubricant, such as Vaseline, into your vagina. Petroleum-based
jellies are likely to increase your vulnerability to infections,
and they will corrode the latex used for condoms and other safer
sex practices.
Two
Beware of confusions between moisturizers, anti-irritants, and
drying powders. Vagisil, for example, markets all three
under the same brand name. Anti-irritant creams (usually containing
5% to 20% benzocaine) numb the skin and are sometimes useful
externally on the vulval tissue, but should never be applied
inside the vagina. "Feminine powders" and talcs are sometimes
used to absorb unwanted wetness of the vulval area, and should
also never be applied inside the vagina. Moisturizers are lubes
applied either directly inside the vagina, or delivered by a
vaginal suppository (such as Lubrin and other brands).
Three
Remember that, unless the label of your lube states otherwise,
it is not a spermicidal (contraceptive), anti-viral, anti-bacterial
or estrogen-supplementing agent. If you want an estrogen supplement
or cream, you should consult a clinical sexologist or a knowledgeable
physician. If you want your lubricant to do double duty and
provide protection against sexually transmitted infections,
buy one that contains Nonoxynol. However, Nonoxynol can be irritating
to the delicate tissue of the vagina, increasing the receptivity
of the vaginal walls to infection; so if a Nonoxynol lube is
going to come into direct contact with the vagina, a counter-irritant
such as Avena Sativa should be used as well.
In
addition to using artificial lubricants, keeping healthy the
musculature of your pelvic floor will increase the blood supply
to your vaginal canal and will help with dryness as well as
giving you an increased sense of comfortable control over your
genitals. Start doing "Kegel"
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a couple of times before they feel tired, later you should be
able to gradually work up to twenty repetitions). Do "kegels"
twice a day, every day if possible. Within a few weeks you will
feel that they have improved your sexual life.
Sooner or later every sexually active woman who enjoys vaginal
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Holistic Wisdom Founder
If
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Hi
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I
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form of cheating.
Sarah
Hi
Sarah,
No,
I don't see fantasizing as a form of cheating. Creating
a fantasy is normal and can be a nice way to explore variation
when masturbating when you are in a monogamous relationship.
The
issue here is more about what is comfortable for you and
your partner Many people have different levels of jealousy
so what is comfortable in one relationship may not be
in another.
For
example, my husband and I have agreed that we will not
entertain fantasies about people that we actually know
in real life because we both feel that for us it tends
to make someone seem better than they really are, and
there is that potential of projecting emotion into that
fantasy and thus the risk of feeling like you are falling
in love with that person based on your fantasies. This
may seem overly conservative to other couples who have
a more open relationship, but it is what my husband I
are comfortable with and therefore is what feels right
for us.
Meanwhile,
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stars we have never met and what we would do with them
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during fun, sex talk with one another. One time we talked
about having Selma Hayek in bed with us for a threesome
as a mutual fantasy and it was really wild!
The
key here is to check in with what feels comfortable for
you and your partner. Perhaps you agree that having fantasies
about other people no matter who they are is fine, and
maybe you agree to share them or keep them to yourselves.
It is not an issue of whether it is healthy... because
sexual fantasies can be a healthy part of one's sexuality.
I think the real issue is whether it feels right for you
and the level of importance you place on it.
Communicate
with you partner about what feels right in the relationship
and get it out there, you may be surprised to find that
you both feel the same about it and be able to enjoy yourself
without feeling guilt. If you find that you and your partner
don't agree, then I suggest communicating about ways to
reach a compromise so that both of you feel your needs
are understood by one another and are being nurtured.
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Hi
Lisa,
My
husband and I have been working on this for about a month
and 2 nights ago it happened I soaked everything it was
the best feeling I ever had I feel like I cant get enough
thanks to your method it really works.
Thanks,
Diana
I
really was skeptical about the glass
toys thinking they were a bit odd
to begin with. However, my boyfriend got them for me as
a gift and I was really impressed. They are not fragile
at all (that of course was what I was concerned about,
especially knowing where it was going to go). These are
really sturdy and I was not at all concerned after using
it. I loved how it was easily warmed and it felt so good
going inside me! He got the baton type as you recommended
and I loved how I could easily use the handle myself to
thrust it in and out of me. I really love it and you can
bet we will be starting a collection! Thank you for introducing
my boyfriend and I to these incredible toys... they are
worth every penny!
Yours
Truly,
Frances
Lisa,
I
really enjoyed your article on female
masturbation. I was brought up in a very conservative
home and always felt like I was doing something wrong
when I masturbated... something dirty. I could never have
an orgasm for this reason. I always like how it felt,
but could never get rid of the guilt long enough to let
go. I am twenty-seven and yesterday was the first time
I ever had an orgasm. Your article's on Struggling
With Our Sexuality and many others really helped
me to feel like my sexuality is beautiful and that I can
embrace it without feeling guilty. I also purchased the
Waterdancer
sex toy that you recommended and it was the first sex
toy I ever purchased and used it to achieve my first orgasm.
Not only have you provided a place that I could learn
about my sexuality, embrace it but also celebrate it with
toys that bring me pleasure like I have never known, you
have provided me with a renewed sense of myself and I
want to tell you from the bottom of my heart... Thank
you! The world needs more people like you!
With
much gratitude,
Jane
When
I first saw the article title Men's
Fear of Sex Toys on
your site I was a bit put off. I mean, I am not afraid
of sex
toys, I just don't want my wife
using them more than she wants to me with me. Then I started
to read what you wrote and realized I was afraid of getting
sex toys for my wife because I was worried she would like
them better than being sexual with me.
After
reading your well written article, I got her the Rabbit
Habit from your site and she loved it. What I had not
counted on was that I loved it too! She was able to use
it to stimulate herself while she gave me a blow job and
let me have sex with her breasts! I always felt like she
was doing me a huge favor when she did this, but now it
was a mutually hot session of sexual explosions and our
sex life is hotter than ever.
We
have done all kinds of new things using this rockin toy
and we just bought some more to enhance things. I never
thought I would have had such a strong pro-opinion on
sex toys, but honestly I think they are the best thing
any couple can do to make a long-term, monogamous relationship
exciting, wild and really hot! Thanks!
-
Mike
Hi
Lisa, recently my husband has mentioned he would like
to have me fuck him, meaning, I have licked him and fingered
his ass driving him crazy, and stroking him at the same
time, but thought to maybe use a dildo on him and he has
never had a toy up his ass. What would you recommend for
starters to not tear or hurt him and size. We have looked
at catalogs and pointed out an anal dildo at 1" and 7
inch long and a full body harness to put on for me. The
thought of me on top of him and fucking him and him playing
with my 36dd breast drives me crazy but am concerned with
safety of toys , he has fucked me in the ass and for a
real dick he is huge at 8 1/2" long and almost as big
as my 2"wide dildo, so my ass hurts some times but love
to let him in especially at the time of month he still
wants to have me. Please help out and give me your input.
Thank you await your reply.
Debbie
G
A
slim vibrator for anal play to start with is the Marina
Opulent Slender G found on our toys
recommended for anal sex page. You can also find some
other suggestions there as well. Best, Lisa
Hi
Lisa,
Since
I am one of those persons that are continually fighting
the weight problem, I was extremely interested in your
article about an Overweight
Sex Life. I found your article to
be very informative especially about sex positions because
my wife and I often have problems getting connected. I
sometime become so frustrated about trying to penetrate
that I lose my erection and end up masturbating. Your
article has given me good ideas for new positions to try
and hopefully our sex play will be improved. Thank you
for your interest.
Regards,
Tim
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Does Television Increase Teen Sexual Behavior?
There is a study that has recently come out that indicates
that watching sexual situations on television actually
increases their sexual behavior. This overly simplistic
study is more dangerous than sex on television if you
ask me.
Think
of it in terms of what came first, the chicken or the
egg?
If
your child watches football on television and plays football
on a little league team, does he play football because
he watches it on T.V. or does he watch it on TV because
he plays football and is interested in it?
Messages
like this actually harm our children because sex sells
and it will never be out of the mainstream. We will always
have sexual situations on television because it is a large
part of who we are, what we desire and there is a large
appeal to watch it.
A
study like this prevents healthy, frank and open discussion
about sex, STDs, birthcontrol because backward thinking
people will insist that there should not be any sexual
content available on television for teens. Kind
of like the simpletons that are against sex education
and for abstinence only. Statistics have proven that the
kids that are not provided with sex education and commit
to abstinence have a higher STD rate than kids who receive
sex ed.
Studies
like this only further the cause of fundamentalists who
can't seem to get it through their head that sexuality
is a beautiful part of who we are, that children are naturally
curious about their own sexuality and that teaching our
children about healthy sexual relationships, STD prevention
and birth control is what will keep our children safe,
and happier and isn't that what we all really want?
Certainly
we should not allow our young children to watch porn,
but showing teens more responsible sexual situations on
television is not going to harm them. It will show them
that it is normal to be a sexual human being and provide
a better view of the positive and negative issues of sex.
We hope there will be more sexuality on television, just
less of the trashy, reckless, drunken kind of sex that
shows none of the reality of such behavior.
Four Women Try and Force Man to
Wed
In Monerterrey, Mexico four women were pretty determined
about getting a marriage to take place when they allegedly
seized a man to force him to marry a former girlfriend
he impregnated. The 22-year-old man told police the 16-year-old
ex-girlfriend, her mother, sister and aunt approached
him outside the food processing plant where he works and
forced him into a taxi. They then took him to their house
and told him they wouldn't release him until he married
his former girlfriend, who is four months pregnant.
His
relatives told police he had been kidnapped, and the four
women were detained when they tried to collect his birth
certificate and $150 to pay for the civil marriage. They
were released after prosecutors found ``no elements''
to charge them with kidnapping.
So
is the man guilty of statutory rape? Statutory rape charges
only apply in this area of the world when women between
13 and 18 years of age are ``seduced'' or ``tricked''
into sex. But no formal complaint had been filed.
Students Punished for Dorm Stripper Pole
Three
students at the hyper-prudish Jacksonville University
in Florida have been punished for installing a stripper
pole in an on-campus apartment and taking pictures as
fully clothed women performed on it at a party. A
female student who won a dance contest also was disciplined.
About a dozen women competed for a $100 Victoria's Secret
gift certificate. None of the women disrobed.
Porn Free Deadline In China
China's government has been cracking down on Internet
and electronic porn and now they've set a deadline for
an e-porn free country if they can get it: October 1st.
As of October 1st, the government wants no more Internet
porn, late-night cell phone erotica, no more sexual text
messages on mobile phones and handheld devices.
Chinese
Information Industry Minister Wang Xudong said that the
new porn-free deadline is being put in place because porn...
"depraves social morals and especially brings great harm
to the country's young minds."
Woman Gives Birth After Tissue Transplant
The first baby conceived after an ovarian tissue transplant
was born in Belgium in a procedure that could one day
allow women to delay motherhood beyond menopause. The
birth marks the first time fertility has been restored
to a woman after doctors cut out and froze some of her
ovarian tissue and transplanted it back into her body
years later.
Implant Makers to Reimburse U.S.
$11.3M
Five silicone breast implant manufacturers have agreed
to pay about $11.3 million to reimburse the federal government
for the cost of treating Medicare patients injured by
the implants. The agreement, subject to court approval,
involves Baxter International, Bristol-Myers Squibb, 3M
Co., Union Carbide, and Union Carbide Chemical and Plastics.
The
reimbursement is related to a 1995 settlement of thousands
of lawsuits filed by women who claimed the implants made
them sick or endangered their health.
The
head of a support group for women with silicone breast
implants said it was hypocritical for the Justice Department
to accept millions from the companies while the implants
are still available, and the Food and Drug Administration
is considering requests from other manufacturers to put
the products back on the market without restrictions.
Not to mention the U.S. Army giving them out now!
Meet The Fockers~
Meet The Parents Sequel Shows Liberator
Shapes! In
Theaters December 2004
Cast-
Robert De Niro, Ben Stiller,
Dustin Hoffman,
Blythe Danner, Teri Polo and
Barbra Streisand
Directed by-
Jay Roach
Story by-
Jim Herzfeld and John Hamburg
Screenplay by-
Jim Herzfeld and John Hamburg
and
Vince Di Meglio & Tim Rasmussen
Based on Characters Created by-
Greg Glienna & Mary Ruth
Clarke
Produced by-
Jane Rosenthal, Robert De Niro,
Jay Roach
Executive Producers-
Nancy Tenenbaum, Amy Sayres
Universal
Pictures/DreamWorks Pictures
The
makers and stars behind the runaway hit of 2000,
Meet the Parents, are re-united-and joined by
some formidable future in-laws in the the follow-up comedy,
Meet the Fockers.
Now that Greg Focker (Ben Stiller) is "in" with his soon-to-be
in-laws, Jack (Robert De Niro) and Dina (Blythe Danner)
Byrnes, it looks like smooth sailing for him and his fiancée,
Pam (Teri Polo).
But
that's before Pam's parents meet Greg's parents, Bernie
and Roz Focker (Hoffman and Streisand). The hyper-relaxed
Fockers and the tightly-wound Byrneses are woefully mismatched
from the start, and no matter how hard Greg and Pam try,
there is just no bringing their families together-which
all adds up to a disastrously funny time of "getting to
know you."
We
learn that Bernie Focker (Hoffman) is a retired legal-aid
lawyer and Roz Focker (Streisand) is a sex therapist for
seniors.
In
keeping with Roz Focker's profession as a sex therapist
for Seniors, these blue shapes are Liberator
Shapes™.
A
screen capture from ACCESS HOLLYWOOD (below) shows the
blue shapes on the floor. There are two blue ones on the
left, and a cone-shaped one just below Barbara's arm on
the right of the screen.
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