We suggest using a simple finger test before deciding on a width. Using your fingers, insert what is comfortable. Then measure the diameter and/or circumference to determine the comfort level of stretching. To measure the size of fingers you desire, place a tape measure around them to determine circumference or use a ruler to determine diameter. If you do not have a tape measure you can always do an Internet search for 'print out tape measure' and you can print one out on a piece of paper.
As for length, we will remind you that both the gspot in a woman and prostate in a man are located only 2.5 - 3 inches inside (may vary slightly in some people). Therefore, it should be noted that long dildos are not always what people desire. In fact, that is why shorter, curved dildos are so popular as they help to reach both the gspot and prostate more effectively and the curve stimulates with pleasurable pressure. That is not to say that some do not prefer longer dildos, just make sure you keep in mind what your sexual goals are when you select both the diameter and length.
Remember the difference between circumference and diameter when assessing how large your sex toy is going to be. Often these two measurements are confused, so being clear as to how wide versus how far around a product is can make a huge difference.
One of the most common mistakes is assuming that bigger is always better. If the dildo is too long it can hit the cervix of your female lover and cause pain and if it is too wide it can cause uncomfortable vaginal or anal stretching. On the other hand if it is too small it can not be as satisfying or provide enough stimulation. That is why it is always a good idea to have a sense of what is comfortable for you and/or your lover rather than assuming that any size will be fine. If you are unsure, keep in mind that it is always possible to make a dildo feel bigger by adding a penis sleeve to it, however, a larger dildo cannot be made to feel smaller.
To use a larger dildo make sure to use a lot of lubricant, go slowly and to listen to what your body is telling you. If you begin to feel discomfort you should stop, reapply more lubricant and be more gentle. If it is still uncomfortable, you should try starting with a smaller dildo and work your way up to your desired goal size.
How flexible and firm a dildo will also greatly impact the feel and performance of it. For example, some materials are extremely rigid and have little to no flexibility to them which often means that that are going to feel slightly bigger as there is no 'give' to them.
There are many sexual scenarios in which dildos are used such as: solo vs. with a partner, whether or not it is used with a harness, if the dildo is going to be used anally or vaginally by a man or a woman or both, etc. For example, a dildo that is petite with high vibration may be ideal for one person while a very large dildo with no vibration may be ideal for someone else. There are also many types of dildos with a large variety of features and we understand that choosing one can feel a bit overwhelming, especially if you are not knowledgeable about them. If you need help choosing a dildo, feel free to contact us as we are happy to help.
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