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How to Choose a Dildo
Factors in Getting the Best Dildo for You

Believe it or not, dildos have been used since ancient times and there have been quite a few variations as time has gone on. Choosing the right dildo for your needs can be a confusing task, especially with so many on the market today.

These days you can find dildos in many sizes and shapes. They can be realistic looking and feeling as well as cute, disguised, wild and artistic. The textures can range from smooth, veined, bumpy, and of course ribbed. Dildos can have handles and suction cups to make them easier to use.

How to Choose a Dildo

Pinning down what constitutes a traditional dildo these days is a difficult task because the sex toy industry has gotten pretty creative. People themselves have also gotten creative in making homemade dildos. There are even kits now that allow people to make their own dildos by molding the penis of a man and creating a true to life replica made out of rubber, chocolate, soap and even a candle.

Warning to Consumers

The most important thing you will want to ensure is that your dildo is safe to use. Believe it or not there are still many sex toy stores that sell toxic sex toys and we are not just talking about the most commonly talked about toxins- phthalates. The problem is that many people are trying to make a fast buck off of consumers. For example, Pyrex glass dildos have become quite popular. However, most of them are made in China and lead paint is often used to make them colorful. Another mistake many sex toy stores make is telling consumers that something is 100% medical grade silicone when it is really a silicone blend which can melt if you mix it with a silicone lubricant. Nothing like having a sex toy melt and leach chemicals into your body.

That is why we only sell nontoxic sex toys so that when you buy from us you can feel safe knowing that what you are going to receive is not just fun to use but safe as well. We have been doing this for a long time, in fact we are the sexual pioneers that started the movement for safer sex toys way back when we started in June of 2000. We are also the founders of the National Association for the Advancement of Science & Art in Sexuality - NAASAS.org, which helps the entire field of sexuality serve you better because you deserve to be empowered.

Choosing Your Dildo(s)

Determining Size

We have provided a guide to help customers better understand that the size of your dildo is very important in ensuring that you are getting something that is comfortable for you and/or your lover. A common mistake is assuming that bigger is always better. If the dildo is too long it can hit the cervix of your female lover and cause pain and if it is too wide it can cause uncomfortable vaginal stretching and even tearing which can be painful. Make sure that you are very clear about what would be comfortable for you and/or your lover by determining the size you desire before you purchase a dildo. See our dildo size guide for more information.

Diameter Vs. Circumference

Make sure to understand the difference between circumference and diameter when assessing how large your dildo is going to be.

Types of Dildos

Smooth dildos are made from a variety of materials including but not limited to - silicone, Pyrex glass, plastic, rubber, Elastomer, food grade vinyl, metal and even wood. The smooth dildo is great for quick thrusting as you have less friction than some of the bumpy or ribbed types. They are also sometimes preferred for anal stimulation for those who like a gentle stroking.

Shape Curved G-spot and Prostate Dildos-
These dildos are truly the most popular as they can be used for both gspot and prostate massage quite effectively. In fact, it is rare that you see dildos without some level of curve these days as the human body has a slight curve and is what makes them fit so well. The reason that the curve is so appealing is because you can use it to put more pressure up into the gspot or prostate and that pressure means added pleasure.

Strap-on Dildos-
A strap-on dildo can be worn by both men and women and are designed to provide penetration both vaginally and anally. There is a great deal to consider when choosing a strap-on dildo. Make sure to see our Strap-on Dildo Guide

Anal Dildos-
These dildos can also be used for vaginal stimulation so you may be wondering why there is even a separate category for them. But listen up grasshopper, there are a few good reasons. The ideal anal dildo will have a flared base, handle or ring at the end. The reason for this is because unlike the vagina which will only let you go so far up it, the rectum can take in a sex toy and make it rather difficult to get out. Many a person has had moments of terror when they realized that taking their fingers and trying to grab a dildo out after it went in only pushed it up further. Emergency Room physicians and nurses have all had a story or two about one of these situations and that is why choosing a dildo that is designed for keeping it under control is a good idea.

Another reason is bacteria transfer. You will want to avoid using dildos that cannot be sterilized completely (bleached, boiled, dishwashed, etc.). You do not want bacteria growing on the dildo and getting out of control and then put it in later anally or especially vaginally only to get an infection. One thing you can do if you know you cannot completely sterilize your dildo is put a condom over it so that you can just take it off when you are done. This especially applies to dildos that are very porous like Cyberskin.

In addition, a reason that most anal dildos are not porous is because you do not want them to absorb the lubricant you are using. Because the rectum will need ample lubricant for using a dildo, the last thing you want is the dildo acting like a sponge. Therefore, 100% medical grade silicone and other non-porous materials are a very good idea.

Finally, the most sensitive part of anal play is the anus (opening) and the prostate (equivalent to the female gspot in men). Having bumps as seen on anal beads can bring a great deal of stimulation. A common trick is to use anal beads and pull them out at the moment of climax for added sensation.

Double Dildos-
Double dildos come in a variety of styles now. It used to be that the only type was one long dildo with two heads. But now there are curved ones that can flex and be used to stimulate the same person anally and vaginally or in a variety of combinations. An example of this is the Feeldoe. In that example you can use it on yourself with single penetration and with a partner with single or double penetration. Double ended dildos can penetrate both anally and vaginally.

Celebrity Molds-
If you have a favorite porn star there are many molds made of them in a variety of materials. Many people enjoy using them while watching porn with the adult star in it.

Vibrating Dildos -
Dildos can come with a vibrator or without. If you get a vibrating dildo you will want to note where the power is coming from to determine how much you will feel it. If the power of vibration is coming through a removable bullet in the back of the dildo you will most likely have a mild vibration. However, if the vibrator is built into the dildo than it will most often be a much stronger vibration. We provide vibration levels on our sex toy listings for your convenience.

Erotic Electrostimulation Vibrating Dildos-
With the advancement in sex toys there are now vibrating sex toys that also have electrostimulation features built into them, thus creating complete erotic electrostimulation sex toys in one product. They are self contained with no wires and do not require an additional electro-stimulating device.
For more information, please see our Electrostimulation Guide.

Dildo Jealousy-
It is true, some people have dildo jealousy. If your lover is worried that you love your dildo more than them you might want to have them read this article as it may help relieve them of some of their concerns- Sex Toy Jealousy


Things to Avoid

Dildos can be made with cheap materials, so make sure that you get one that is non-toxic and phthalate free. Your rectum and/or vagina is able to absorb things and harmful chemicals should be the last thing on your mind when you are trying to pleasure yourself. We sell only phthalate free products so you can rest easy when it comes to any concerns there. If you want to know more about toxins in sex toys, we have plenty of articles on our Sex Toy Education page.


Using Lubricants with Dildos

Lubrication is encouraged when using a dildo to prevent discomfort. Even if a woman is lubricated naturally, putting a dry dildo inside her (especially with thrusting) can cause irritation and pain and it is why we highly recommend using a safe, waterbased lubricant for all of your sex toys as they make even clitoral sex toys feel better. There are no negative chemical interactions that occur to sex toys when using one that is waterbased and paraben free. To learn more about lubricant selection you can read our Lubricant Guide.


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