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How To Use A Vibrator
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Vibrators provide amazing stimulation to a woman's clitoris, to men and women's nipples & anus as well as a man's penis. There are many varieties of ways you can use them. In general, focus on what feels good to you, not just what you may think is "normal." There is no right or wrong choice, rather what is right for you.

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Lisa Lawless
By Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D.
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Basic rules to keep in mind are-


Waterproof Vs. Water Resistant

Only use waterproof or water-resistant vibrators in water. Be careful to note when something is waterproof vs. water-resistant. A basic rule of thumb regarding waterproof means that you can submerge it, whereas water resistant means you can get it wet, but not submerge. Make sure to keep rechargeable sex toys clear of being exposed to water or moisture through their plug in areas to avoid damage or even electrical shock.

Quality Vibrators- How Can You Tell?

Buy quality vibrators from a reliable source that will replace them if they do not work when you buy them (like we do). We carry many quality made vibrators and provide our recommendations.

Cleaning

Make sure to clean sex toys after use to prevent transmission of STDs or bacteria build up that can cause urinary tract infections (UTI). The best way to clean sex toys is to use a sex toy cleaner which is safe for the product and won't damage it, while it provides antibacterial protection.

Power

Do you prefer something that requires batteries, is rechargeable or plugs in? There are pros and cons to each-

Battery Pros & Cons
A sex toy that requires batteries affords the user to operate without cords and provides a larger variety of sex toys to choose from as most require batteries. These can be costly if not using rechargeable batteries by having to keep replacing them. These can be bad for recycling purposes if you use non-recyclable batteries and therefore bad for the environment. We recommend getting rechargeable batteries to counter the cons if you get a battery operated sex toy.
Make sure to take batteries out in-between use to extend the life of your vibrator, and especially while traveling with sex toys to avoid embarrassing buzzing suitcases.

Rechargeable Pros & Cons
Rechargeable sex toys do not require batteries and are therefore, better for the environment and less expensive to maintain. Depending on the quality of the toy, they may not hold the charge for long. These may also require long charging periods and may not work unless fully charged; making it important to plan on having it charged before your next use. Some rechargeable may not allow you to use it while it is charging.

Plug In Pros & Cons
Electric sex toys are often some of the most powerful vibrators and offer a deep vibration that others cannot compare to. You do not have to worry about costly batteries, the effect of batteries on the environment or planning to make sure your toy is charged. These can limit how far you can move around (we recommend getting an extension cord). The cord may get tangled or get in the way during wild sexual adventures. These also cannot ever get wet as they may create the risk of electrical shock. We recommend wiping down with a moist wash cloth when it is unplugged that has been sprayed with sex toy cleaner.

What Is The Right Vibrator For You?

Read how to choose the right vibrator for you if you are unsure of what kind to purchase.

Don't Underestimate The Pleasure Of Lubricant

Adding a small amount of water based lubricant to your vibrator play can enhance the sensation and decrease the chance of irritation. Oil Based Lubricants can sometimes lend themselves to irritation and vaginal infections, so we recommend water based for that reason. They can also melt and break down the materials used to make sex toys so we always recommend erring on the side of waterbased lubricants when using any sex toy.

The Need For Speed

Experiment with speed levels- if you find the vibrations to be too intense reduce the speed of the vibrator. You can also decrease the intensity by placing a wash cloth over the surface area of the vibrator, but just holding the vibrator more lightly on a low setting should do the trick. If the vibrations are not intense enough, turn up the speed or increase the pressure of the vibrator against your body.

Small Vibrators

Just because it is small, does not mean it is cannot be powerful. The Berman Athena is an example of a little one that surprisingly strong. Smaller vibrators make moving them around easier, they are good to travel with and can be introduced into sexual positions a bit easier. One amazing new vibrator can be worn during intercourse and stimulates both the gspot and the clitoris. It is the popular We-Vibe

Eggs and Bullets can be used internally (on the g-spot and prostate) or externally (on the clitoris and nipples). Be careful when using bullets anally as the sphincter muscle is strong and the cord can become detached.

Anal Sex Toys

For anal vibrators remember that the anus is a very sensitive area. As the anus has no natural lubrication, it is important to use plenty of lubricant. Start by just touching and stroking the outside of the anus. When you feel you are ready, insert the vibrator, moving it in and out slowly. Make sure to clean your vibrator afterward with a disinfectant as risk of STD and bacteria transmission is high form anal use, as a preventative measure you can simply slide a condom over the vibrator to keep it clean.

Women's Multiple Orgasms

If your vibrator has variable speeds, try using it on low and then increasing the intensity slowly, bringing lots of blood to the clitoris and labia, and then experiencing a big wave of orgasm. Then after a minute or two, go back to low and start all over again. See if you can have multiple orgasms as many women find they are able to using this approach.

Using Sex Toys Together

Don't forget that you can use vibrators simultaneously with finger, tongue and penis stimulation. Using a vibrator creatively can make one's sex life a lot of fun! Another combination that people often forget about is the use of a vibrating cock ring on a dildo or penis to provide dual stimulation!

Men Can Use Them Too

Men are sometimes hesitant to try using a vibrator on themselves regardless of sexual orientation, but are often surprised at how pleasurable they are on nerve rich areas such as testicles, the head of their penis, nipples, anus and even prostate.

Electrostimulation Vibrators

Electrostimulation devices can also have vibrators in them so that they are an are all in one electrostimulating vibrator.

Read more here to learn about erotic electrostimulation.

 

Vibrator Tips Based On Style-

 

How To Use A Clitoral Vibrator

Clitoral vibrators come in a variety of shapes and sizes which means there is a lot of room for creativity and sexual pleasure. For example, there are traditional vibrators, estim vibrators and air pulse stimulators.

When using a clitoral vibrator keep in mind that there are different ways to use them to stimulate the clitoris. You can pull the clitoral hood back exposing the clitoris for direct contact or put the vibrator over the hood that covers the clitoris for less intense stimulation. You may also put the vibrator to one side of the clitoris if both of those options are too intense. Additionally, you can alternate stimulation by inserting or moving around your vibrator over the vaginal opening and go back and forth between stimulating the clitoris and inner labia (lips) as you tease and stimulate. Keep in mind you can also use other vibrators such as gspot, vibrating rings, and dual vibrators to hold over your clitoris and use them to stimulate yourself or your lover that way.

You can use dual motor vibrators that can stimulate both the clitoris and gspot at the same time and even find triple stimulating vibrators that stimulate the clitoris, gspot and anus all at the same time. There are vibrators that can be worn during sex, used remotely and those that have customization features so the options are quite vast.

There can be a temporarily over stimulation caused by vibrators. Basically, it means that they can make you a little desensitized to them if you use them for long periods of time. That is why you may benefit from taking the vibrator off your clitoris and moving it around the vaginal lips and then going back to the clitoris to keep from getting overstimulated or desensitized. You can also use a vibrator with a pattern setting that will cycle through vibration patterns which help keep you from becoming over-stimulated or desensitized as well. If you do find that you are temporarily numb from a vibrator on your clitoris and are having difficulty climaxing, it can be beneficial to switch to an air pulse stimulator which does not over stimulate in that way.

The desensitization from using a vibrator is temporarily and is very similar to having someone scratch your back. At first, it feels wonderful, then you start to feel the pleasure decrease until after a while you no longer find it pleasurable and can even find it no longer stimulating and even agitating. Taking small breaks from your vibrator can help with this as can using lubricants keeps this from happening as do the air pulse stimulators.

To use an air pulse vibrator-

Spread the labia apart to expose clitoris. Place the air pulse stimulator over the clitoris after you have placed a small amount of water based lubricant around the opening and rim of the air pulse stimulator. Place the air pulse stimulator down so that there is a seal and the clitoris is completely inside. Lay back and enjoy the pulsating sensations of the air pulse stimulator as it works to stimulate the clitoris and increase blood flow which can increase the intensity of orgasms.

For more information see Vibrator Facts & Myths.



How To Use A Gspot Vibrator

G-spot vibrators are curved to put pressure into the gspot. This is because pressure into rather than rubbing against the gspot tends to provide more sexual stimulation. Gspot vibrators come in a variety of shapes and sizes and can be short in length as the gspot (Skenes Glands) are only 1-3 inches toward the front wall of the vagina. Every woman is different in the exact location as well as prominence of the gspot but all women do have one and stimulating it is equivalent to the pleasure a man gets from stimulating his prostate as they are very similar.

To find the gspot insert a finger or two into the vagina, directing it up into the vaginal wall toward your belly button. Press your fingers upward putting pressure against the top part of the vagina. You may feel a more spongy area, but it helps if you stimulate the clitoris first so that you can engorge the gspot with fluid to make it easier to detect. The area where the gspot is is made up of Skenes Glands and when these fill with fluid that is similar to prostate fluid and what is also known as female ejaculation pressure into the gspot is more pleasurable and easier to feel.

Once you have located the gspot you can use your gspot vibrator by inserting it and either rubbing it back and forth, leaving it in place with a vibrator cycle going or rock it back and forth.

 

How To Use A Vibrating Erection Ring

Vibrating Erection Rings can increase blood flow which may increase erection size and hardness while helping to improve sexual stamina. The vibrators are often designed to stimulate a partner's clitoris and/or perineum and can make sexual penetration more intense. Vibrations may also travel through his penis while he penetrates either vaginally or anally.

Learn more about Erection Rings

Learn How To Get The Right Size Erection Ring


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