There is a great deal of debate about female ejaculation, not because all women are not capable, but because there has been a genuine lack of understanding regarding women's sexuality in our culture for far too long. As an expert in female ejaculation, Dr. Laura Berman had me on her radio show to discuss it. She and I agree when it comes to how it works, and I will explore with you how to achieve female ejaculation as well as the history, debates, and controversy around it in this article. I will also review what products I think help in attaining it.
Female ejaculation is something that all women can experience. For those that find difficulty in doing it, I can tell you that I have spent quite a bit of time researching how to overcome those obstacles, and I hope that my research will help you to enjoy this beautiful sexual experience should you desire to do it.
Some people erroneously think that not all women can ejaculate because they have tried and it has not worked for them. However, all healthy women have the same anatomy, so it can just be a matter of finding the right technique and overcoming psychological issues that may inhibit a woman sexually.
For skeptics, it is essential to note that there are cases where some women may have Skenes glands that are not functioning correctly or underdeveloped. For example, in 2002, Emanuele Jannini of L'Aquila University in Italy found that the Skene's glands in women have a wide variety of sizes and the number of Skenes glands they had. He indicated that, in some extreme cases, they appeared not to be present. However, the number of women and the details of this has not been made clear to the public. It is also not examined if those women had other sexual deviations physically or not. We do know that sexual development can impact whether or not a woman develops normally, and in extreme cases, you can even see things such as hermaphroditism (having both testicular and ovarian tissue). There are always exceptions, however, in the case of female ejaculation, and for the sake of addressing the norm for this article, we will be discussing the majority of healthy cis females and will not be focusing on the rare exception.
Women Have G-spots (Female Prostates)
All women have G-spots; sometimes, it is also referred to as the G-Area or G-Region. Not all women's G-spots are easy to find, especially when a woman is not sexually excited, it may seem nonexistent (that would be why many physicians do not feel them during medical evaluations).
Imagine a doctor saying that only some men have a prostate. That would be ridiculous, right? Well, that about sums up this study. Emmanuele Jannini of the University of L'Aquila in Italy has said that the female vaginal orgasm exists only in some women.
In his study, Jannini determined that on the front vaginal wall, the tissue was thicker in the women who had disclosed that they achieve vaginal orgasms. This could be an indicator that women who have more prominent G-spots climax from stimulation to it more easily. According to the study, the thicker tissue demonstrates the presence of a G-spot. However, one has to examine if that is what we are really referring to when we are identifying the G-spot.
Are we saying that it is tissue, or are we saying that it is the Skenes glands under the tissue? If we agree that it is the Skenes glands (which most would agree upon) that make up the G- spot, and because all healthy women have Skenes glands, then it is only fair to say that all women have a G-spot.
However, some women have thicker tissue in front of the Skenes glands, which means that it makes their presence more pronounced and easier to find. It also allows for more pressure to be placed on it when a penis, finger or sex toy is pressing against it. Therefore, it would logically make sense that those women that have more tissue in front of the Skenes glands would be more prone to vaginal orgasm than those with not as much tissue.
When you look at a woman as a whole, then you can see her sexual functioning more. Clearly, all women have a G-spot. However, the sensitivity of that G-spot, the mass of tissue in front of it, and the size of those glands are all variables. A woman will have to determine if she has high or low sensitivity and work with what she has. Should she not find much pleasure through G-spot stimulation, then certainly vaginal stimulation is still an overall pleasurable sensation, especially when enhanced with clitoral stimulation.
Dr. Helen O'Connell, a well-known Australian researcher, feels that the G-spot is connected to the vagina, clitoris, and urethra to make up a "clitoral complex." The clitoris is shaped like a wishbone and extends through the vaginal walls and contracts during sexual arousal. This has led some researchers to think that rather than there being a G-spot, it is a continuation of the clitoris even though the clitoris is not located there.
In a Rutgers University study, it was shown through an MRI test that the cervix, clitoris, and vagina stimulated distinct areas of the women's sensory cortex in her brain. What was interesting was that each woman's brain sensed the distinct stimulation of each region, including the area of the vaginal wall where the G-spot is located.
The biggest myth out there is that female ejaculation is urine, and this is not true. While it can mix with urine, there is a lot of back and forth by people who are confused as to exactly what it is and is not. In studies where it has been tested, it has been determined that the female ejaculate known as prostatic-specific antigen (PSA) contains glucose and an enzyme, which is also known as prostate acid phosphatase. This enzyme is a significant component in semen as it comes from the prostate in males. Again, the G-spot in a woman is essentially the same as a man's prostate, and that is why the fluid is similar.
In addition, when the prostatic-specific antigen (PSA) was discovered, it contained some elements of urine (urea and creatine). There were typically at least trace amounts, which suggests that either it simply was lining the urethra or a little came out with the ejaculate. Those who have experience female ejaculation via squirting know that it is a sweet-smelling, watery type of fluid and is not the typical fluid that one sees when a woman is wet from sexual arousal or having had an orgasm. This is why there has been such a strong focus on the concept of retrograde ejaculation.
Female ejaculate is relatively consistent in taste, smell, color, and consistency. However, leukorrhea, on the other hand, varies in these factors, and like other fluids in the body, it seems to be influenced by diet and time frame of the menstrual cycle. Factors that influence the characteristics of the fluid are menstrual cycle, diet, fluid intake. There are women who report that it is sometimes clear and odorless, other times thicker and stronger in odor. It is safe to say, most women's ejaculate will vary with time, even during a single sexual episode.
It is safe for a person to taste their ejaculate, and for couples who already exchange body fluids, but not for couples needing to practice safe sex.
Female ejaculation is not difficult; women typically don't know about the elusive reasons they are not doing it. They are usually sabotaging their chances for gushing female ejaculate when they are having an orgasm without even knowing it. One of the main reasons that women do not know they can do it is because women will often feel like they need to urinate when they are ready to expel the ejaculate and because they think that urine will come out, they hold back.
Prevention of female ejaculation is a simple clenching down of the Kegel muscles to stop the fluid from coming out. When a woman cannot relax, bear down and push to expel the ejaculate, it may come down to a matter of inhibitions. Often women are taught not to be messy or sexually assertive. Pushing out ejaculate for a woman can feel like a significant sexual breakthrough as it allows her to feel a level of freedom and uninhibited sensuality that she may not have ever felt before. Sometimes even the most confident of women have a difficult time ejaculating, so it is nothing to be embarrassed about and is certainly not an indicator that something is wrong if she cannot. While some women have an easier time at achieving female ejaculation, that is no different than some women having more difficulty merely having an orgasm.
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Is Female Ejaculation A Gspot Orgasm?
Women who ejaculate have been known to ejaculate in large amounts. There is a great deal of debate that still goes around, even between the most well versed sexual health professionals. Some say that it is the ejaculate and urine mixed. While some say that it is retrograde ejaculation, which means that the fluid has gone out the G-spot and up into an empty bladder or filled the urethra and then comes out; others say that it is a building up of fluid that fills the Skenes glands (G-spot) and then like salvia in your mouth, keeps filling back up and does so at a very quick rate.
The truth is that women can urinate and ejaculate at the same time. Therefore, sometimes even with the best intentions of simply wanting to ejaculate, women can expel some urine. To reduce this possibility, I recommend urinating before sexual activity and if it is prolonged, taking a break just to make sure it is all expelled if this is a concern.
Female ejaculate is sweet-smelling and does not have a salty taste. Salt from sweat may get into the mix, however, as there are a variety of fluids that can come out during a woman's sexual arousal and climax. Ejaculate is not yellow, so if you see that, there may be some urine being expelled during climax. Unlike men, women do not have a valve control to shut down the urination process during sexual arousal, so understandably it can get confusing as to what exactly is coming out.
First lets get the myths out of the way and review what is true and untrue about it.
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Where Does Female Ejaculation Come From?
Part of the reason that the G-spot and its functioning was ignored was that it does not impact reproduction, and therefore, it was deemed unimportant. However, as a woman speaking for my sex, I can say that it is truly a significant failure on the part of physicians that they have seen only reproductive functioning as important. After all, it has been determined that prostate massage in men reduces the risk of prostate cancer. Could it not be just as important for women to know if draining the G-spot could also provide health benefits? When the female prostate (G-spot) has become enlarged or caused discomfort, it is called female urethral diverticulum or female prostatitis. Many urinary tract infections (UTIs) have been incorrectly diagnosed and treated due to this disregard for the female prostate.
Even beyond the health aspects of female sexuality, women's sexual pleasure is notable solely for the sake of itself. As more sexual health professionals are pushing for research in this area, we are beginning to see increased education about this, which is finally giving women the knowledge they need to be rightfully sexually empowered.
Because the Paraurethral (Skenes) glands that make up the G-spot are only about 1.5 - 2 inches in length, it is reasonable to wonder how up to two cups of fluid can come out. However, as mentioned before, there is a great deal of debate regarding it, even among sexual health professionals. There are Magnetic resonance images that suggest that the theory of retrograde ejaculation may be what is going on inside.
This is where the fluid has gone out the G-spot and up into an empty bladder and then comes out. However, it could also be urine mixing with the fluid from the female prostate. This is where the fluid has gone out the G-spot and up into an empty bladder and then comes out. However, it could also be urine mixing with the fluid from the female prostate.
There have been clinical tests where a woman's bladder is drained of urine before sexual stimulation and ejaculation. Even though the women's bladders had been drained, they were found to expel anywhere from 50 ml to 900 ml of fluid into a catheter bag. This has lead researchers to conclude that at least some of the liquid must come from the bladder, such as in the study conducted by Samuel Salama and his colleagues at the Parly II private hospital in Le Chesnay, France. However, even in that study, it was shown that the majority of post-orgasm urine samples contained prostatic-specific antigen (PSA). It is the PSA that many researchers say is the "true" female ejaculate, which is produced mainly by the Skene glands. Other researchers show more urine with smaller amounts of prostatic secretions.
Some researchers, like Dr. Gary Schubach, have stated in his research that the majority of the female ejaculation originates in the bladder. Still, the expelled fluid is not quite normal urine. In his research, a woman's bladder was emptied using a catheter before orgasm. During orgasm, a catheter was in place and connected to a collection bag. Analysis of the fluid expelled during orgasm is the basis for his claim. Oversight of this approach is that the bladder sphincter is normally closed. If it were not, liquid in the bladder would come out at any time. By creating an artificial passage and collecting the fluid expelled from the bladder during pelvic muscle contractions is just part of the picture and does not explore if, during orgasm, this passage exists typically, even if only for a moment.
Some speculate that female ejaculate originates from the kidneys in large volumes, which could hold some validity in that magnetic resonance imaging has captured increased fluid in the kidneys when a woman is aroused. Combining this fluid with the fluid that is expelled from the female prostate glands would complement the lab tests on the fluid. Therefore, this is an excellent theory and one that should be delved into more through testing, such as ultrasound monitoring.
The bladder theory is just one of several and is assumed to be true because doctors are confused about how the fluid can come from the Skene's glands (the G-spot) as it could not hold as much as 2 cups of fluid. Thus, the reason that it must come from the bladder. However, it may come from the kidneys and Skene's glands. It is still controversial, and because there have not been any recent studies as I write this article, it is still difficult to say which of the theories are correct with 100% accuracy. Even the latest studies only measure the fluid and are not comprehensive with a large group of women combined with fluid testing and internal imaging.
Most women can gush as much as 0.5 - 2 cups of the fluid when ejaculating. However, this can be affected by how hydrated a woman is, how much she pushes while ejaculating, and other factors. The more fluid, the more chances prostatic-specific antigen (PSA) is being mixed with urine. The female prostate comes in many different shapes and sizes, but the majority of women have a prostate that is positioned near the external urethra can expel similar amounts of fluid.
The amount of fluid that is expelled varies from woman to woman as well as from sexual experience to experience. It can be a mere dribble to more than two cups. When you think about it, two cups is a lot of liquid, but it has been documented, however, many say this amount of fluid is only when it is mixed with urine. Typically that is the case when there is that much fluid.
Some women experience female ejaculation when they do not want to. The best way to stop it is to refrain from pushing outward during an orgasm. Women can also clench down on the urethra by using their Kegel muscles, much like they would stop the flow of urine. The more developed the Kegel muscles, the easier it will be to control it.
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