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How To Have Multiple Orgasms
Dr. Lisa Lawless, CEO of Holistic Wisdom
Clinical Psychotherapist: Relationship & Sexual Health Expert
What Are Multiple Orgasms?
Multiple orgasms are when a person has at least orgasms very close together. How long a refractory period a person experiences will determine how close together they can orgasm.
A refractory period is a period of time that follows an orgasm when a person is no longer physiologically sexually responsive. This means that they are not able to have an orgasm during this time and may find continued sexual stimulation overly sensitive or painful.
Males and females both have refractory periods, although, typically, men's refractory periods last longer. In addition, women's brains are more responsive to sexual pleasure after having an orgasm, which is why women find themselves more multiorgasmic than men.
Multiple Orgasm Research
- In a study done in 2016, it was estimated that 8 to 15 percent of women had experienced multiple orgasms, with 8 percent saying that it was easy to have them. There is no data on the number of orgasms a female can have.
- Less than 10 percent of men in their 20s have multiple orgasms, and fewer than 7 percent over the age of 30 have them. Very few men are multiorgasmic, and it is considered a rarity.
- Most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve multiple orgasms, and one study showed that half of the women who incorporate sex toys into intercourse have multiple orgasms.
- A Finland study reported that 12 percent of women had multiple orgasms during their last sexual experience. Additional studies in 1999, 2007, and 2015 reported similar percentages.
- An online study done in 2017 of 1,250 women in the United Kingdom showed that 70% had reported experiencing multiple orgasms at least once.
Multiple Orgasms & Stacked Orgasms
Multiple orgasms are when someone has one separate orgasm after another, usually a few minutes apart. A stacked orgasm is one long orgasm that feels like multiple orgasms, one right after another, but it is actually waves of one orgasm and does not have the same build-up and release as multiple orgasms.
When most techniques claim to teach men how to have multiple orgasms, they often really mean stacked orgasms. This is not to be confused with edging, which is a start and stop tantric technique where one is sexually stimulated until just the point of orgasm and stops before climax to prolong orgasm.
How To Achieve Multiple Orgasms
One of the best ways to start attempting to become multiorgasmic is to begin solo. Masturbation allows us to learn about our bodies and what we like sexually. When you masturbate, use various techniques and toys to learn what provides the most intense pleasure, teasing pleasure, and what combination of stimulation you enjoy the most. Try stimulating yourself to the verge of orgasm, pause, hold back, wait and continue at a slower, more relaxed pace. Repeat the whole process until you absolutely can't hold off any longer, then allow yourself to orgasm.
As you calm down, stimulate your genitals until you feel the waves building up again. You may find that the orgasms are more powerful, less powerful, or stay the same. We are all different, as are the various times we have an orgasm and how our bodies react to them.
A 2016 study showed that sexual stimulation for 15 minutes or more increases the chances of multiple orgasms. More than just time, the key is self-exploration, mindfulness, and listening to your body as you pleasure yourself or receive pleasure. For more helpful sex tips on achieving orgasms, also see our helpful guides:
- Clitoral & Vaginal Orgasm Guide
- Find Your G-Spot & Stimulate It
- Understanding & Stimulating The Clitoris
- Female Masturbation Tips
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Male Masturbation Tips
- Sex Toys For Disabilities
- Plus-Size Sex Education, Resources & Products
- What Are Dry Orgasms?
Communication
If you are with a partner, honest and open communication is helpful to better understand sexual preferences from techniques, sex toys, lubricants, and routines. See our helpful guide on Sex & Communication For Partners.
Don't Feel Pressure To Have Multiple Orgasms
There is no need for anyone to feel pressure about having multiple orgasms, even if you have had them before. People's bodies change as they age, and so do your refractory periods. Furthermore, stress levels, medications, chronic illness, disabilities, and other factors can influence whether or not one can physically have one.
It's not just about one thing or another. It is based on a complex combination of psychological and physiological responses. There is no such thing as a magic technique or special sex toy that anyone can use to achieve multiple orgasms. Thus, stay away from "sex experts" plugging special techniques or secret ancient sex tips who tell you that anyone can have them and that it is easy for everyone.
In Closing
Multiple orgasms are often unpredictable, with factors of age, health, and sexual stimulation all weighing in on whether or not one can have them. The most essential thing you can do is simply go into sexual experiences to enjoy them regardless of having one or many orgasms.