How To Use Couples Sex Toys

Dr. Lisa Lawless, CEO of Holistic Wisdom
Clinical Psychotherapist: Relationship & Sexual Health Expert

Couples Sex Toys

Sex toys can be used solo or with a partner. There are many ways couples can use sex toys to enhance sexual play. Below are examples of some of the most popular couple's products and how they can be used.

C-Shaped Vibrators

C-shaped sex toys are primarily designed to be used simultaneously during penetrative vaginal sex with a dildo or penis. They provide G-spot and clitoral stimulation during intercourse. They can make a penis or dildo feel larger during penetration, allowing added girth, pressure, and stimulation to the G-spot. Shop our Couples Vibrators.

Penis Rings

Penis rings can be used on a penis, dildo, or even on fingers. They come in non-vibrating and vibrating styles and can provide added stimulation to a penis while keeping blood inside to help maintain an erection. Those with erectile dysfunction (ED) or who want firmer, larger erections find penis rings helpful. Additionally, penis rings can include a testicle ring that goes around the testes, prolonging sex by delaying ejaculation. Clitoral vibrators on penis rings can provide essential stimulation to the clitoris to achieve an orgasm or can be turned upside down to provide perineum stimulation.

For more information about penis rings, explore our: Penis Rings Guide, and Penis Ring Measuring Guide or Shop Penis Rings.

Butterfly Vibrators

Butterfly vibrators may have straps or be strapless and can be placed over the clitoris to provide direct clitoral stimulation while having intercourse. If turned upside down, they can also provide perineum stimulation. Unlike vibrating penis rings that only make contact during intercourse when thrusting, they provide constant stimulation, which is often helpful in achieving a clitoral orgasm. You can find these with our Couples Vibrators.

Strap-Ons

Strap-on dildos offer vaginal or anal penetration. If you use a strap-on, never use one anally and then vaginally unless you have entirely disinfected the dildo, and ensure you are using one made from non-porous silicone. We carry Strap-On Dildos, Harnesses, Strap-On Sets, and Strapless Strap-Ons.

To learn more about strap-ons, please see our guides: Strap-on Sex Harness Guide, and Anal Strap-On Pegging Guide.
To learn more about strapless strap-ons please see our guide: How To Use Strapless Strap Ons.

Hollow Dildos

Hollow dildos can be an option for penetrating the vagina or rectum. Those with erectile dysfunction (ED) often use them to allow a flaccid penis into the dildo to penetrate their partner. To learn more about sex toys ideal for men with erectile dysfunction, please see our guide: Sex Toys For Erectile Dysfunction.

Clitoral Vibrators

Vibrators for clitoral stimulation can be used during sexual intercourse. There are hands-free models as well as those that you can simply hold in place. You can also use sex toy mounts that hold them for you. Stimulation to the clitoris is vital for achieving an orgasm; please see our helpful guide to understand why: The Clitoris Guide.

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Air Pulse Clitoral Suction Stimulators

Air pulse stimulators (clitoral suction stimulators) provide targeted and intense clitoral stimulation through sonic air pulses. To learn more about them and why they are so effective and enjoyed by our customers, please see our Air Pulse Sex Toys Guide, or Shop Air Plus Clitoral Suction Stimulators.

Bumpers

It can be painful if a penis or dildo bumps against the cervix during vaginal penetration. Using bumpers (silicone rings that go over a penis or dildo) helps keep penetration from going too deep. Bumpers keep penetration at a comfortable depth. Make sure to explore our educational guide: Painful Vaginal Sex and explore all of our dildo accessories including bumpers.

Sex Toys For Anal Sex

Anal stimulation can be superficial around the anus or through penetration of the rectum. It can be performed while penetrating vaginally through a double dildo, strapless strap-on, or penis ring with an attached dildo. Please see our How To Use Anal Toys Guide for more information.

Finger Vibrators

Finger vibrators can be used in a variety of ways for couples. They can be used to stimulate the vagina as well as the rectum. Be careful if using a finger vibrator on the rectum to not use it on the vaginal opening or clitoris unless it has been completely disinfected first, as doing so may bring harmful fecal bacterial into the urethra resulting in a urinary tract infection (UTI).

For more helpful education, please see our guides: Fingering Tips For The Vagina and How To Use Anal Toys.

Nipple Vibrators

Nipple Vibrators offer couples added stimulation and can be used during various sex play scenarios. To learn more about nipple sex toys and how to choose one, please see our helpful Nipple Toys & Nipple Stimulation Guide or shop nipple sex toys.

Sex Pillows For Sex Positions

Sex pillows are firm and ideal for holding the body comfortably during sex. Some couples find they make various sex positions more effortless and accessible. In addition, some models are designed to hold sex toys so they can be used hands-free. These are called sex toy mounts, to learn more please see our article: Using Sex Pillows To Enhance Sex.

Shop sex toy pillows or sex toy mounts.

Disabled Couples

Couples who have disabilities, chronic pain, mobility issues, and other challenges may need to find sexual products that can accommodate them in unique ways. Make sure to see our related guides for additional assistance.

Plus Size Couples

If you or your partner are plus-sized, you may desire sexual products that are more comfortable and can accommodate those with added weight more effectively. Please see our helpful guides:

Plus-Size Sex Education, Resources & Products

Plus Size Sex Toys

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