This guy I dated
was so consumed with getting me to orgasm that I felt that it was
an obsession. It made me feel alone and without an emotional connection
with him. He treated sex as if it were the goal, whereas, it was
the intimacy I craved. I really do not need a man for great orgasm
with all the great sex toys these days. What I do need is to feel
connected during sex to make it great and if a guy focuses all on
technique, it gets to be old very fast.
was so threatened by my vibrator that it ruined our relationship.
My little, innocent vibrator was something that I wanted to use
on occasion during lovemaking so that I could have the best of both
worlds. His insecurities overtook being a giving lover and instead
of celebrating with me something that made me feel good, he would
say derogatory things about my desire to use it. Of course he was
caught up in a lot of other insecurities too and we ended up breaking
up. I have a lover that actually buys cool sex toys for me now and
for himself and we have so much fun together!
Most of my ex-lovers
were pretty good. However, there were a few that really could have
used some help in the kissing department. At least at first. It
seemed like if I spent enough time with them they would eventually
start kissing me back the way I was kissing them and I would not
have to say anything. However, there were some dates remained 1st
dates because the kiss goodnight was just awkward and weird. The
main thing I would stress, is to be slow, soft and sensual. Leave
the forceful tongue jerking, crazy lip biting and seeing how far
you can get your tongue down their throat for much later in a relationship
when you want to try new things and when your lover can say comfortably
to you whether they like it or not.
I had a date
with a guy that when he kissed me would engulf my whole mouth and
chin and slobber all over me. Gross!
There was this
girl that I dated that would think it fun to kiss while eating or
chewing gum. It just grossed me out man.
My ex used to
think that it was sexy to rotate her tongue in a circle to French
kiss. Um, no thanks!
I had this one
girl who thought she would show off her oral sex skills by using
her teeth! OWWWWW! Talk about a boner killer. She acted surprised
when I told her to stop. What was she thinking that sharp teeth
on tender penis skin was going to be super awesome?
I hate it when
a girl acts like semen is the most disgusting thing in the world
and refuses to swallow. Nothing like a girl running into the bathroom
to spit it out. Not hot. It is so much better when she allows you
to fully climax while still in her mouth and finds it sexual that
I had a lover
who thought that he would be able to get me off with just sexual
intercourse. While gspot stimulation feels good, I just do not have
orgasms without clitoral stimulation. It is so hard to bring this
up without feeling like you are insulting your lover or him thinking
there is something wrong with you. I have news for men out there,
many women have to fake orgasms because there is just not as much
pleasure without clitoral stimulation. I introduced this sex
toy that provides clitoral stimulation while my boyfriend wears
it now and we do not have those problems any more.
Believe it or
not, I actually like anal sex, but my boyfriend just could not get
it through his head that he had to be careful not to rub against
my VA-jay-jay after, because I kept getting UTI's (Urinary Tract
Infections) that hurt really bad and made me have to see my doctor
for antibiotics a lot.
I hate it when
guys keep pressuring for anal sex if you do not want to. Tried it
and did not enjoy it and I feel like that should be the end of the
discussion if it is something that I do not want to do. I do Kegel
exercises, keep fit, and I do oral and see no reason why that
should be insufficient.
refused to try prostate massage... I mean would not even consider
it. My current husband was open, tried it and loves it. We have
the best sex life because we are open and creative. A word to men...
loosen up, literally.
I had an ex-boyfriend
who seemed like he had watched porn to learn how to have sex. First
of all, lightly lapping at the clitoris is not a great technique.
One of the best articles
on oral sex on women is clear on this point. Also, give us a
kiss afterward, and let us know it was about us and not getting
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